1 00:00:48,291 --> 00:00:54,011 I know this is bad news, but... This can heal with treatment. 2 00:00:55,553 --> 00:00:58,678 Your illness is serious, but it can be treated. 3 00:00:59,971 --> 00:01:02,131 - OK, oh... - Yes? 4 00:01:04,136 --> 00:01:06,053 - May I ask? - Yes, please. 5 00:01:06,898 --> 00:01:09,898 The treatment, what is it... 6 00:01:10,527 --> 00:01:12,472 Should I take sick leave? 7 00:01:13,136 --> 00:01:17,175 Yes. Indirectly, but during treatment. 8 00:01:18,678 --> 00:01:21,274 Treatment with pills? 9 00:01:22,094 --> 00:01:27,989 No. It could be surgery or radiation therapy, but both have side effects. 10 00:01:28,169 --> 00:01:30,066 Tell me if it's too fast. 11 00:01:30,761 --> 00:01:35,566 Surgery means removing your prostate, which will produce sterility. 12 00:01:35,928 --> 00:01:39,078 But so does radiation. 13 00:01:39,886 --> 00:01:42,678 Both treatments will affect your erectile function. 14 00:01:42,803 --> 00:01:46,341 Some can be overcome with training, 15 00:01:47,189 --> 00:01:50,806 but your erection is likely will never be the same again. 16 00:01:52,011 --> 00:01:56,322 Incontinence is a common side effect others, but many people don't experience it. 17 00:01:56,678 --> 00:02:01,803 I would recommend surgery. But, In the end, you will choose. 18 00:02:04,261 --> 00:02:06,639 This happens to many men in his life. 19 00:02:07,136 --> 00:02:12,847 If the patient is elderly, we sometimes choose not to treat it. Not with you. 20 00:02:13,553 --> 00:02:18,469 You have to accept and think about this. 21 00:02:18,553 --> 00:02:22,543 Do you have any questions now? You can ask me anything. 22 00:02:25,928 --> 00:02:27,071 No. 23 00:02:27,854 --> 00:02:31,733 WEDNESDAY, AUGUST SIX 24 00:02:33,011 --> 00:02:36,011 - Can I ask something? - Yes, of course. 25 00:02:37,011 --> 00:02:41,764 - I'm not sure if he heard you. - Really? 26 00:02:41,864 --> 00:02:44,928 - You don't get the same impression? - No? 27 00:02:45,011 --> 00:02:49,053 Yes, it's not unusual If the patient can't... 28 00:02:49,136 --> 00:02:50,658 Maybe it's even commonplace. 29 00:02:52,670 --> 00:02:55,817 He didn't have any questions, but that's a common thing. 30 00:02:57,011 --> 00:02:58,160 Next patient? 31 00:03:01,678 --> 00:03:04,200 Please answer. What did he say to you? 32 00:03:05,011 --> 00:03:07,928 They can't let you left without an answer. 33 00:03:08,011 --> 00:03:09,971 - Bjorn Holm? - What will they do? 34 00:03:11,523 --> 00:03:17,153 Yeah, I don't know, but it's not vicious, right? 35 00:03:17,529 --> 00:03:22,284 I think so. I didn't really catch it what he said. 36 00:03:22,571 --> 00:03:25,291 - You didn't ask? - I have to apply for sick leave. 37 00:03:25,450 --> 00:03:28,453 You have to ask until you get a clear answer! 38 00:03:29,386 --> 00:03:30,445 Please follow me. 39 00:03:31,001 --> 00:03:32,632 - Why? - There's something you need to see. 40 00:03:36,386 --> 00:03:38,132 - I'll ask. - No, don't. 41 00:03:38,216 --> 00:03:39,870 - Yes. - No. 42 00:03:42,928 --> 00:03:45,426 Can you ask them to go back inside? 43 00:03:48,727 --> 00:03:49,727 O. 44 00:03:50,020 --> 00:03:52,027 - Hi. - How are you? 45 00:03:52,814 --> 00:03:55,692 SEX / DREAMS / LOVE 46 00:03:55,792 --> 00:03:58,486 DREAMS / LOVE 47 00:03:58,570 --> 00:04:01,948 LOVE 48 00:04:13,168 --> 00:04:16,757 All the art we see here tell us something. 49 00:04:16,928 --> 00:04:19,744 I think it's very important for us to see 50 00:04:19,928 --> 00:04:24,972 city hall decoration as a message for those of us who live in Oslo. 51 00:04:26,011 --> 00:04:29,797 With that in mind, you will see 52 00:04:29,881 --> 00:04:33,401 if the whole building demonstrate human values. 53 00:04:33,571 --> 00:04:35,811 For example, the wall decoration displays 54 00:04:35,899 --> 00:04:38,523 different constellations of women with children. 55 00:04:38,761 --> 00:04:41,654 On the left, a woman with a child. 56 00:04:41,738 --> 00:04:44,197 Next to him, two women with a child. 57 00:04:44,678 --> 00:04:49,969 I took that as approval single mothers and same-sex parents. 58 00:04:50,053 --> 00:04:55,594 So, it's a tribute to the city which is firm on homosexuality. 59 00:04:55,678 --> 00:05:00,544 Isn't that amazing? By the way, she's my friend, Marianne. 60 00:05:00,632 --> 00:05:06,346 Please join if you wish. Let's find out another fine example on the west wall. 61 00:05:19,442 --> 00:05:22,654 In this country, we love sporting achievements. 62 00:05:22,737 --> 00:05:27,324 So, I like facts that sport they choose 63 00:05:27,408 --> 00:05:31,719 is a sport you could say Embrace your feminine side. 64 00:05:31,803 --> 00:05:33,494 Namely figure skating! 65 00:05:37,310 --> 00:05:41,822 Here we see the Oslo symbol, Oslo Girl. 66 00:05:41,940 --> 00:05:44,060 Or I prefer calling her "Oslo Woman". 67 00:05:44,801 --> 00:05:48,729 See how he stands there, look and listen. 68 00:05:48,813 --> 00:05:50,533 Pay attention to the city. I think it's very good. 69 00:05:54,553 --> 00:05:57,594 On this side, I want to show to you these two statues 70 00:05:57,678 --> 00:06:02,387 that stands out from the rest. Fisherman by Nils Flakstad. 71 00:06:03,056 --> 00:06:06,681 This represents one Norway's most important industry. 72 00:06:07,011 --> 00:06:12,558 But we must not forget about fishermen is also an ancient symbol of Christ. 73 00:06:13,121 --> 00:06:17,959 So, I see this figure as the figure of Christ who is loving and forgiving, 74 00:06:18,043 --> 00:06:23,428 holding his hand in blessing the lives of all Oslo citizens, 75 00:06:23,553 --> 00:06:27,622 and all of that is a dream and worries, 76 00:06:28,303 --> 00:06:35,267 and needs, sexual needs too, which I want to link to the figure here. 77 00:06:35,351 --> 00:06:40,732 The only statue that is explicit related to sexuality. 78 00:06:41,566 --> 00:06:43,462 We see a meeting between three people. 79 00:06:43,546 --> 00:06:46,747 The couple on the right, single man on the left. 80 00:06:47,572 --> 00:06:51,594 This meeting is full with sexual tension. 81 00:06:51,826 --> 00:06:56,203 Something was clearly going on between the men on the left and the woman on the right. 82 00:06:56,799 --> 00:06:59,708 But if you pay attention to men on the right, 83 00:06:59,792 --> 00:07:04,464 isn't his gaze also headed to another man? 84 00:07:04,672 --> 00:07:09,170 Now, look at his hands, folded in front of his crotch. 85 00:07:09,511 --> 00:07:14,844 What does it mean? Will this ever end with a sexual fusion of the three? 86 00:07:14,928 --> 00:07:18,594 A threesome, simple enough? Things like that happen. 87 00:07:18,678 --> 00:07:21,594 Everyone has needs and different sexual preferences, 88 00:07:21,678 --> 00:07:26,994 which Jesus saw and acknowledged as part of creation. 89 00:07:27,821 --> 00:07:29,774 What I think is very interesting is 90 00:07:29,858 --> 00:07:35,202 a very prominent place, the outer wall this hall is dedicated to sexuality. 91 00:07:35,286 --> 00:07:37,356 I feel like that so touching and caring. 92 00:07:37,761 --> 00:07:41,959 - But isn't that a bit cramped? - How could that be? 93 00:07:42,043 --> 00:07:45,517 I mean, it seems a bit too niche? 94 00:07:45,601 --> 00:07:50,803 This should be the foundation Oslo's 100th anniversary celebration. 95 00:07:51,678 --> 00:07:55,219 National celebration. A magnificent party... 96 00:07:55,303 --> 00:08:01,423 Yes, we have planned there are many events in the city with this theme. 97 00:08:01,521 --> 00:08:06,609 - It should last for days. - Yes. This is a continuous process that we... 98 00:08:06,693 --> 00:08:10,160 What do you envision, specifically? 99 00:08:10,261 --> 00:08:14,700 Making a budget is difficult when we don't know what we're doing. 100 00:08:14,784 --> 00:08:17,786 We have special suggestions... 101 00:08:17,870 --> 00:08:20,028 But it's not just one day. 102 00:08:20,165 --> 00:08:22,793 Everyone should be included. 103 00:08:22,928 --> 00:08:27,469 Of course! This is for everyone! But who is "everyone"? 104 00:08:27,553 --> 00:08:29,178 Isn't "everyone" us? 105 00:08:29,261 --> 00:08:32,535 Lots of small custom themes for women and men and others. 106 00:08:32,760 --> 00:08:34,638 Together, we are everyone. 107 00:08:35,636 --> 00:08:37,803 Until tomorrow. 108 00:08:39,226 --> 00:08:40,393 - Bye. - Bye. 109 00:08:40,476 --> 00:08:41,995 - It didn't go well. - It went well! 110 00:08:42,019 --> 00:08:46,608 No, it didn't go well. Can we have coffee somewhere? 111 00:08:46,691 --> 00:08:48,567 Shouldn't we take the ferry? 112 00:08:48,651 --> 00:08:51,571 We don't have to be in Nesodden two hours later. We have plenty of time. 113 00:08:54,127 --> 00:08:57,746 - This is your idea. - Yes, my presentation. 114 00:08:57,830 --> 00:09:03,624 Everyone shows their ideas, then we decide together. 115 00:09:03,708 --> 00:09:07,753 There are also consulting companies, of course, who has a proposal. 116 00:09:07,837 --> 00:09:10,583 But it has to be grounded on caring for people. 117 00:09:10,674 --> 00:09:11,807 You think so? 118 00:09:11,891 --> 00:09:15,893 - I? You think so too. - I? How could that be? 119 00:09:16,636 --> 00:09:18,928 When I applied for this job, you said, 120 00:09:19,011 --> 00:09:23,229 “Working for the city is an opportunity to help people." 121 00:09:24,386 --> 00:09:26,220 - I said that? - Yes. 122 00:09:26,803 --> 00:09:30,553 - What is it about your own work? - Possible? 123 00:09:31,152 --> 00:09:32,346 "Possible." 124 00:09:33,636 --> 00:09:36,865 You say things like that without thinking, Marianne. 125 00:09:36,949 --> 00:09:40,537 "When you say my name, I became very happy 126 00:09:41,191 --> 00:09:45,542 because you know my name." Do you remember you wrote that for me? 127 00:09:45,636 --> 00:09:47,893 Yes, of course. 128 00:09:49,170 --> 00:09:52,173 That's a quote from Ragnar Hovland. What what makes you think that now? 129 00:09:52,261 --> 00:09:54,501 I don't know, maybe because you said "Marianne". 130 00:09:55,134 --> 00:09:56,894 Tell me more about tonight. 131 00:09:57,553 --> 00:10:01,219 What happened tonight was... 132 00:10:01,303 --> 00:10:06,053 I've put together a team to finalize the details. 133 00:10:06,395 --> 00:10:09,316 There is a composer, architect, 134 00:10:09,485 --> 00:10:12,309 choreographer, then we... 135 00:10:12,393 --> 00:10:14,691 But what about geologists? He knows I'm coming? 136 00:10:14,811 --> 00:10:17,066 Yes, of course. 137 00:10:19,617 --> 00:10:22,703 I have a good feeling about that. 138 00:10:22,787 --> 00:10:26,393 Yes, maybe it's just in my head, but I think you'll get along. 139 00:10:26,678 --> 00:10:27,528 Suitable. 140 00:10:27,612 --> 00:10:32,195 That's a good place for you to meet other people there 141 00:10:32,279 --> 00:10:36,418 - so it's not too stiff. - I tend to get along with a lot of people. 142 00:10:38,011 --> 00:10:40,992 - What, how...? - No, I just... 143 00:10:41,181 --> 00:10:46,258 I'm a bit lost... It seems like it's much more important to you. 144 00:10:46,937 --> 00:10:49,164 - If you meet someone? - Yes. 145 00:10:50,190 --> 00:10:51,195 No. 146 00:10:52,761 --> 00:10:54,276 No, that's not it. 147 00:10:56,571 --> 00:10:58,365 - No, that's not it. - No? 148 00:10:59,136 --> 00:11:02,533 It's not like I talk much about missing having a boyfriend, isn't that right? 149 00:11:02,617 --> 00:11:04,129 No, you never. 150 00:11:04,231 --> 00:11:08,207 I might just see it from my point of view. 151 00:11:10,011 --> 00:11:12,503 I'm very stressed about meeting someone. 152 00:11:13,671 --> 00:11:16,675 But you said that you open to meeting someone. 153 00:11:16,761 --> 00:11:18,966 Yes that's correct. 154 00:11:19,553 --> 00:11:23,219 When you said that you were very stressed because I couldn't find anyone, 155 00:11:23,303 --> 00:11:25,694 What makes you so stressed? 156 00:11:27,011 --> 00:11:29,225 I don't really know. 157 00:11:29,309 --> 00:11:34,462 You used to like being alone. 158 00:11:36,486 --> 00:11:41,361 What about security that the relationship brings? 159 00:11:42,691 --> 00:11:44,237 - Possible. - I've thought about that a lot. 160 00:11:44,261 --> 00:11:46,928 I don't feel insecure in life, and so will you. 161 00:11:47,049 --> 00:11:48,049 No. 162 00:11:48,581 --> 00:11:51,744 Yes, I like marriage. 163 00:11:52,928 --> 00:11:54,982 I'm simpler than you in that respect. 164 00:11:57,011 --> 00:12:01,469 After seven or eight years in the flat, Have you decided to buy a small table? 165 00:12:01,553 --> 00:12:03,928 It never occurred to me. Where can I buy it? 166 00:12:04,011 --> 00:12:08,454 I think IKEA, or second hand online. What type do you want? 167 00:12:08,935 --> 00:12:11,717 It should be short, to match the mattress. 168 00:12:12,011 --> 00:12:14,428 - You'll need two. - No. 169 00:12:14,511 --> 00:12:17,576 You can't have a double bed with a table on one side. That's sad. 170 00:12:17,660 --> 00:12:20,719 Who cares? Why is that sad? 171 00:12:21,530 --> 00:12:24,074 Buying two is not... 172 00:12:24,158 --> 00:12:26,368 - Hi! - Hi! 173 00:12:26,452 --> 00:12:27,908 Are you going to the party too? 174 00:12:28,619 --> 00:12:30,998 - Party? - More like a normal gathering. 175 00:12:31,082 --> 00:12:34,593 - Or an inspirational meeting. - Yes. I'm on my way home. 176 00:12:35,291 --> 00:12:40,131 - You live in Nesodden? I don't know. - No. I just borrowed a cabin. 177 00:12:40,967 --> 00:12:43,720 I spent the summer there. 178 00:12:43,803 --> 00:12:46,745 - Heidi, my friend, and Tor, my colleague. - Pleased to meet you. 179 00:12:47,390 --> 00:12:50,821 - Yes, have fun. - Of course. 180 00:12:50,905 --> 00:12:53,375 - Until tomorrow? - Of course. Bye. 181 00:12:55,523 --> 00:12:57,731 - Is he a doctor? - No, she's a nurse. 182 00:12:58,150 --> 00:13:02,030 - I have to look for a mirror. - I'll go outside. 183 00:13:10,761 --> 00:13:11,761 O! 184 00:13:25,553 --> 00:13:28,793 We can't assume that people really understand what we are saying. 185 00:13:29,474 --> 00:13:33,390 I think about that patient all day. 186 00:13:34,103 --> 00:13:39,442 - I'm glad you caught that. - Yes, he reminds me of my father. 187 00:13:40,026 --> 00:13:42,778 - I can be a bit like that too. - You too? 188 00:13:43,464 --> 00:13:49,223 Yes, I can understand not being brave asked for fear of looking stupid. 189 00:13:50,031 --> 00:13:53,729 - So. Where are you from? - Hobøl, in the Østfold area. 190 00:13:53,831 --> 00:13:57,836 - Did you grow up on a farm? - No, my mother grew up there. 191 00:13:57,928 --> 00:14:00,257 - So. - But they are not breeders. 192 00:14:01,380 --> 00:14:04,843 They are ordinary people. My father worked in construction. 193 00:14:04,928 --> 00:14:07,789 - And you became a nurse. - Yes, eventually. 194 00:14:08,261 --> 00:14:12,136 I never imagined you come from Hobøl, or Østfold. 195 00:14:12,219 --> 00:14:15,120 No? Because I'm so handsome? 196 00:14:16,353 --> 00:14:19,253 - Do you think you are handsome? - I am kidding. 197 00:14:19,761 --> 00:14:23,472 But I told people on exit. 198 00:14:24,028 --> 00:14:25,028 No, really? 199 00:14:25,053 --> 00:14:27,109 "You're too handsome to come from Østfold." 200 00:14:28,636 --> 00:14:33,864 - Do people really say that? - No, or yes, happened several times. 201 00:14:34,636 --> 00:14:38,505 Maybe because of the dialect. Hard to take seriously. 202 00:14:38,589 --> 00:14:41,214 - You can't know he's from Østfold. - No. 203 00:14:41,298 --> 00:14:42,796 I tried to hide it. 204 00:14:42,880 --> 00:14:44,974 You can't know either if we are from Dokka. 205 00:14:45,058 --> 00:14:49,554 - No, I don't think so. - Dokka? Where's that? 206 00:14:49,929 --> 00:14:54,643 Not far from Gjøvik. Between Gjøvik and Fagernes. 207 00:15:05,678 --> 00:15:08,219 - Where is your cabin? - There. 208 00:15:08,322 --> 00:15:10,658 - Little red? - Yes, the first one you see. 209 00:15:11,742 --> 00:15:14,285 - Right near the ferry pier. - Yes. 210 00:15:17,051 --> 00:15:18,651 - Bye. - Bye. 211 00:15:26,803 --> 00:15:29,084 - Wow, this one? - Yes. 212 00:15:29,386 --> 00:15:33,386 - What a big house! He must be rich? - Rich? 213 00:15:37,101 --> 00:15:39,770 - Hi. - Hi. 214 00:15:41,011 --> 00:15:43,928 How was your presentation? Isn't that today? 215 00:15:44,011 --> 00:15:49,094 - Not good. I didn't make my point. - No, it went very well. 216 00:15:49,178 --> 00:15:52,471 I'm sure it went well. You make it sound so good. 217 00:15:52,908 --> 00:15:55,243 - I'm almost jealous of your ideas. - Hi. 218 00:15:55,327 --> 00:15:57,038 - Ole Harald. - Marianne. 219 00:15:57,196 --> 00:16:00,419 So, you're Marianne! Heidi told us about you. 220 00:16:00,959 --> 00:16:03,876 - You're not part of... - No, I'm a doctor. 221 00:16:04,011 --> 00:16:07,180 Did you just come? What will you prepare? 222 00:16:09,011 --> 00:16:13,330 - Beer and wine. Snack. - Barbecue! He's very good at it. 223 00:16:13,512 --> 00:16:17,789 None of my business. Let's go, kid. Dad has a meeting. 224 00:16:17,873 --> 00:16:21,303 Hey, you guys just come in. The others were already inside. 225 00:16:21,386 --> 00:16:25,664 - Let's go home now. Come on. - No! 226 00:16:25,774 --> 00:16:28,486 We've discussed this. Dad's going to a meeting. 227 00:16:28,653 --> 00:16:31,403 - Yes? - Let go. One two three! 228 00:16:31,488 --> 00:16:35,219 Recently, the concept of "feminism" covers so much. 229 00:16:35,303 --> 00:16:38,928 Yes, it has been worn to a point where it loses all meaning. 230 00:16:39,011 --> 00:16:41,957 - Hi! - Glad you could come. 231 00:16:42,041 --> 00:16:44,502 - All of you. O. - Ishmael. 232 00:16:44,594 --> 00:16:48,219 - Heidi. Are you the architect? - Hi. Abel. 233 00:16:48,303 --> 00:16:51,297 - Marianne. - Hi, Anna. Nice to see you again. 234 00:16:51,383 --> 00:16:55,514 - She is Marianne. - I have nothing to do with this. 235 00:16:55,928 --> 00:17:02,202 Correct. I overheard when you talk about feminism? 236 00:17:03,020 --> 00:17:08,265 I'm curious, do you think we persuaded people who have agreed to this project? 237 00:17:08,349 --> 00:17:12,391 - I'm not sure, it depends... - Depends on how you look at it. 238 00:17:12,529 --> 00:17:16,843 My mother called me last night, and I told him about this. 239 00:17:16,927 --> 00:17:21,738 I said this is a city project. But he can't understand feminism. 240 00:17:21,831 --> 00:17:26,748 He said it had nothing to do with him. He tried to get treatment at home, 241 00:17:27,136 --> 00:17:32,803 but don't know how. He called them, to no avail, which... 242 00:17:32,886 --> 00:17:36,053 So, you think we should celebrate the anniversary 243 00:17:36,136 --> 00:17:41,183 by improving public services and create better web solutions? 244 00:17:41,267 --> 00:17:46,064 - That doesn't mean one of them isn't important. - No, not at all. 245 00:17:46,313 --> 00:17:51,820 - Are you employed by the city? - Yes, at the Department of Culture. 246 00:17:51,903 --> 00:17:55,864 And I'm the leader for the anniversary project. 247 00:17:57,366 --> 00:18:04,040 - I am a historian by education. - With an impressive doctoral thesis. 248 00:18:04,136 --> 00:18:07,960 - Yes, wow! - I wrote my thesis on fashion history. 249 00:18:08,047 --> 00:18:12,552 - With what subject? - Per Spook, if you've heard of it? 250 00:18:12,636 --> 00:18:16,053 O. He is... 251 00:18:16,136 --> 00:18:17,998 Yes. O. 252 00:18:18,082 --> 00:18:21,999 That's right, he is... Would you? No? 253 00:18:22,136 --> 00:18:24,980 As I said in the email, 254 00:18:25,064 --> 00:18:31,136 I want this meeting be an initial or inspirational meeting. 255 00:18:31,735 --> 00:18:34,947 Very similar words, I hear it now. 256 00:18:35,237 --> 00:18:42,454 If we start with the fundamentals, namely the land we pass through, 257 00:18:42,538 --> 00:18:46,928 and because I have good neighbors who is a geologist 258 00:18:47,011 --> 00:18:49,786 I started thinking about that, 259 00:18:49,878 --> 00:18:54,337 and thought that maybe this perspective could open up some new thoughts. 260 00:18:54,631 --> 00:18:56,031 - I don't know if you guys... - Oh, yeah? 261 00:18:56,055 --> 00:19:00,178 I plan to say a few words 262 00:19:00,261 --> 00:19:04,726 about the geological formation of the city. 263 00:19:05,636 --> 00:19:09,136 And so on, if that interests you? 264 00:19:10,564 --> 00:19:13,027 I suggest we go up to the roof, 265 00:19:13,111 --> 00:19:19,719 where the view is better. We can see the whole city from there. 266 00:19:19,803 --> 00:19:20,719 Pleasant. 267 00:19:20,803 --> 00:19:25,036 - Can you guys follow me? - Of course. 268 00:19:25,120 --> 00:19:28,713 That shirt, it's very nice. 269 00:19:28,928 --> 00:19:31,408 - Why, thank you! - I think so too. 270 00:19:31,502 --> 00:19:34,678 I'm a bit sorry. This is my most expensive shirt. 271 00:19:34,771 --> 00:19:37,611 There's no fence out there, so please sit down. 272 00:19:38,677 --> 00:19:40,430 I don't want anyone to fall. 273 00:19:41,303 --> 00:19:44,678 - Can I step here? - Sure, don't sweat it. 274 00:19:45,678 --> 00:19:49,284 - Whose bed are we stepping on? - This is my bed. 275 00:19:49,545 --> 00:19:52,795 - You sleep here? - I should change the sheets. 276 00:19:52,899 --> 00:19:56,651 - No problem? - No, I... I grew up here. 277 00:19:56,735 --> 00:20:02,210 Yes, the old house used to be here. My room is here, more or less. 278 00:20:02,294 --> 00:20:05,622 - So, this is the boy's room? - Yes, the boy's bed. 279 00:20:06,386 --> 00:20:09,216 - Is that interesting to you? - Yes, a little. 280 00:20:10,553 --> 00:20:14,489 - I guess it's getting a little interesting to me. - Not the widest. 281 00:20:14,886 --> 00:20:18,912 No, but there is room if you want. 282 00:20:20,259 --> 00:20:21,823 If you want, there is room. 283 00:20:24,430 --> 00:20:25,557 Okay. 284 00:20:31,011 --> 00:20:35,510 I want to start by saying if everything keeps changing. 285 00:20:35,931 --> 00:20:40,531 Always. Therefore, nothing is really fundamental. 286 00:20:41,053 --> 00:20:43,198 But we have historical facts. 287 00:20:44,700 --> 00:20:47,243 "The Oslo Cauldron" got its name from 288 00:20:47,327 --> 00:20:51,559 Nordmarka and Ekeberg hills which descends to the lowlands, 289 00:20:51,999 --> 00:20:54,081 giving it a crater-like shape. 290 00:20:54,376 --> 00:20:59,667 What we call Oslo today comes from three stone species. 291 00:21:00,178 --> 00:21:03,423 We have bedrock areas, 292 00:21:03,927 --> 00:21:07,671 consisting of hard species, such as gneiss and granite. 293 00:21:07,755 --> 00:21:12,969 This area stretches from Østmarka to Ekeberg, 294 00:21:13,053 --> 00:21:15,423 and descends to Bunnefjorden. 295 00:21:15,886 --> 00:21:18,303 Then, we have the “center”. 296 00:21:18,386 --> 00:21:24,053 Mostly Cambro-Silurian, softer stone species 297 00:21:24,136 --> 00:21:31,553 such as limestone and slate, and lots of deposits and clay. 298 00:21:31,636 --> 00:21:35,640 If you look at the surrounding heights, such as Nordmarka and Sørkedalen, 299 00:21:35,724 --> 00:21:40,432 we found most of it eruptive species, such as lava and basalt. 300 00:21:40,757 --> 00:21:45,923 This is a "going up" rock species, 301 00:21:46,178 --> 00:21:49,472 like how said one of my high school teachers. 302 00:21:49,556 --> 00:21:55,438 Then, all of this forms topography which may resemble a crater. 303 00:21:58,954 --> 00:22:04,537 I'm not sure how to interpret The impact of geology on our lives. 304 00:22:04,621 --> 00:22:09,339 But, yeah, I guess where you walk, where do you put your feet, 305 00:22:10,244 --> 00:22:15,709 but also what surrounds us, buildings, for example, or flora, 306 00:22:15,793 --> 00:22:17,972 it affects us mentally. 307 00:22:18,544 --> 00:22:23,049 I think you can see it a bit like the scent of clothes 308 00:22:23,757 --> 00:22:27,554 from someone who doesn't use it deodorant or perfume or something. 309 00:22:28,471 --> 00:22:31,887 You guys react to the scent. 310 00:22:31,974 --> 00:22:34,851 It has personality, and can challenge you. 311 00:22:35,602 --> 00:22:38,545 You feel it in your body. 312 00:22:39,274 --> 00:22:44,124 In the same way, I think it also impacts our souls. 313 00:22:47,148 --> 00:23:11,148 Every DP Directly Gets a 5% Bonus Playing Here Guarantee Wede WinJos Definitely Win. Jos Wede Visit https://super.winjos.today 314 00:23:14,136 --> 00:23:18,811 Yes, we can go back. Anyone want some wine? 315 00:23:18,895 --> 00:23:21,815 - Yes, please. - Or something else? 316 00:23:21,928 --> 00:23:23,238 Come on down. 317 00:23:25,553 --> 00:23:27,228 Be careful with your heads. 318 00:23:44,296 --> 00:23:49,052 When the architect mentioned that his mother not getting the help you need, 319 00:23:49,676 --> 00:23:54,641 when things don't work out, it makes this whole celebration... 320 00:23:55,432 --> 00:24:00,853 I guess I haven't thought about this. That our focus should be elsewhere. 321 00:24:00,937 --> 00:24:03,296 I think you're complicating this. 322 00:24:03,607 --> 00:24:07,607 One important thing is not to make other things are less important or interesting. 323 00:24:08,403 --> 00:24:13,034 This keeps happening. You have this very original idea, 324 00:24:13,136 --> 00:24:17,053 which is yours, but then doubts came. 325 00:24:17,136 --> 00:24:20,053 - Ida, this is impossible. - It will definitely be tiring. 326 00:24:20,136 --> 00:24:25,053 You can't run from Mom. Let's go home and read bedtime stories. 327 00:24:25,136 --> 00:24:28,053 I understand if you need it think everything through carefully. 328 00:24:28,136 --> 00:24:31,096 You've brushed your teeth and will go to sleep! 329 00:24:31,261 --> 00:24:33,761 Let's read a bedtime story. 330 00:24:34,136 --> 00:24:37,053 - Come on, let's sleep. - Hi, Solveig. 331 00:24:37,136 --> 00:24:41,594 - Let me help you. - No problem. 332 00:24:42,270 --> 00:24:45,798 Good. Where is Oda? Is he home alone? 333 00:24:46,817 --> 00:24:49,963 Oda is at home with Geir. They sleep. 334 00:24:50,053 --> 00:24:52,053 - Come on. - I'm fine. 335 00:24:52,322 --> 00:24:56,887 I'm the only one who can't sleep. Come on home, darling. 336 00:24:57,077 --> 00:24:59,694 - Come on. - He can sleep here. You're home. 337 00:24:59,886 --> 00:25:02,957 - But this week it's my turn. - No, it's like this. 338 00:25:03,041 --> 00:25:07,130 Solveig, let's go home together. I'll take my bag. 339 00:25:09,548 --> 00:25:12,052 - Everything okay there? - Yes. 340 00:25:12,634 --> 00:25:14,137 You didn't make them anything? 341 00:25:16,136 --> 00:25:18,491 - I'll just go. - That's not good, Ole. 342 00:25:19,411 --> 00:25:21,211 We're having fish pie, right? 343 00:25:23,645 --> 00:25:25,899 - And white wine. - Very sweet. 344 00:25:27,357 --> 00:25:29,399 I don't want to waste food. 345 00:25:30,360 --> 00:25:35,657 - Ida, what if we go home, darling? - Solvelig, come on. 346 00:25:35,741 --> 00:25:39,704 - I'm going too. - Can I ask something? 347 00:25:40,036 --> 00:25:43,831 - Of course. - My mother and my aunt have cancer. 348 00:25:43,959 --> 00:25:44,959 Yes? 349 00:25:45,886 --> 00:25:48,468 Excuse me. So, I just want to know... 350 00:25:49,212 --> 00:25:51,800 Sorry! I'm fine. 351 00:25:51,886 --> 00:25:57,053 I just want to know if you know Correlation between cancer and insomnia? 352 00:25:58,511 --> 00:26:04,511 I've never heard conclusive study. So, don't worry. 353 00:26:06,104 --> 00:26:11,456 - Come on. Will you find your way to the ferry? - Ida, see you tomorrow. Have a good night's sleep. 354 00:26:11,553 --> 00:26:16,025 - Yes, bye. - I'll send an email before Wednesday. 355 00:26:16,116 --> 00:26:19,116 - Of course. Bye! - See you. 356 00:26:20,011 --> 00:26:24,171 - Sorry about this. - No need to apologize. 357 00:26:24,374 --> 00:26:28,215 - Hello! - I want to talk more. 358 00:26:28,335 --> 00:26:30,755 - Me too. - To find out what your story is. 359 00:26:31,339 --> 00:26:33,672 I don't know Do I have a story, but... 360 00:26:33,928 --> 00:26:39,428 Who are you. However, I really enjoyed talking to you. 361 00:26:39,511 --> 00:26:42,737 So am I. So, yeah. 362 00:26:43,431 --> 00:26:46,223 - Bye, and good luck. - Bye. 363 00:27:49,137 --> 00:27:50,458 - Hi. - Hi. 364 00:27:50,542 --> 00:27:53,171 - Are you following me? - You too. 365 00:27:53,261 --> 00:27:55,013 Three times in one day? 366 00:27:57,050 --> 00:27:58,068 Where are you going? 367 00:28:00,468 --> 00:28:04,307 - Go out of town? - No, not out of town. 368 00:28:04,704 --> 00:28:06,716 - Yes? - I'm not going anywhere. 369 00:28:07,711 --> 00:28:09,827 - You only take the ferry? - Yes. 370 00:28:10,884 --> 00:28:15,008 I just took the ferry, back and forth. Sometimes I do. 371 00:28:15,928 --> 00:28:17,291 How's the party? 372 00:28:19,030 --> 00:28:21,831 Party, yeah... 373 00:28:22,238 --> 00:28:27,809 It suddenly ended. Oh, that's strange. 374 00:28:29,414 --> 00:28:36,548 I only went because of Heidi wants to set me up with his neighbor. 375 00:28:37,553 --> 00:28:42,701 And that... Yes, he's divorced, and his ex-wife lives next door. 376 00:28:44,011 --> 00:28:46,499 - So, yeah. - Not your type? 377 00:28:46,583 --> 00:28:48,116 Yes, of course. 378 00:28:49,434 --> 00:28:50,730 Possible. We will see later. 379 00:28:52,898 --> 00:28:55,718 You really just take the ferry back and forth? 380 00:28:56,399 --> 00:29:02,532 Yes, sometimes when I can't sleep and feels restless, 381 00:29:02,636 --> 00:29:03,708 I took the ferry. 382 00:29:05,636 --> 00:29:06,944 Mostly looking for... 383 00:29:07,531 --> 00:29:10,171 - Looking for a man, really. - Okay. 384 00:29:12,844 --> 00:29:17,732 - Do you know Grindr? Or Tinder, of course. - Sure, and I know Grindr too. 385 00:29:19,255 --> 00:29:23,797 You can see who is active, and who is closest to you. 386 00:29:23,887 --> 00:29:30,621 There's something about existing in a confined space, ferry. Can see who is active. 387 00:29:31,309 --> 00:29:34,675 When you see it on the screen, you can search. 388 00:29:34,803 --> 00:29:37,006 And they are right in front of you. 389 00:29:37,303 --> 00:29:40,928 - Is anyone active tonight? - No, there aren't any now. 390 00:29:41,011 --> 00:29:44,155 - But it happened? - Of course. Often. 391 00:29:44,239 --> 00:29:45,879 OK, then, what are you going to do? 392 00:29:46,411 --> 00:29:51,013 Sometimes there aren't any. Maybe just glance at each other. 393 00:29:52,205 --> 00:29:55,001 - Or we'll go out on deck. - And have sex? 394 00:29:56,042 --> 00:29:58,296 Yes? Mostly, we just talked. 395 00:29:58,837 --> 00:30:00,269 Maybe we'll arrange something. 396 00:30:00,636 --> 00:30:02,996 For me, it's mostly about the sensation. 397 00:30:03,386 --> 00:30:07,320 Meeting someone's gaze and realizing that we are both "on". 398 00:30:09,011 --> 00:30:11,496 But have you ever having sex on the Nesodden ferry? 399 00:30:13,268 --> 00:30:18,668 Several times, but the trip was short, can't do much. 400 00:30:18,761 --> 00:30:19,761 Yes. 401 00:30:20,011 --> 00:30:23,411 - It's like exploring. - Exploring, what is it? 402 00:30:24,470 --> 00:30:25,478 Don't you know? 403 00:30:26,691 --> 00:30:31,811 It's about going to a certain place to have casual sex. 404 00:30:32,287 --> 00:30:37,266 There are lots of places to explore. A remote part of a park or forest, 405 00:30:37,350 --> 00:30:41,469 - where men meet other men. - And have sex. 406 00:30:41,882 --> 00:30:42,882 Yes. 407 00:30:44,136 --> 00:30:50,116 But not only that. On this ship, we mostly just talked. 408 00:30:50,764 --> 00:30:55,261 Sometimes, while exploring in the park, 409 00:30:55,478 --> 00:30:59,353 you will sit and chat after having sex. 410 00:31:01,109 --> 00:31:03,114 There's something about that post-sex talk. 411 00:31:03,331 --> 00:31:07,731 Because they are humans that you don't know. 412 00:31:08,659 --> 00:31:12,235 You may not know their names. Maybe you'll never know. 413 00:31:12,928 --> 00:31:16,822 Being on neutral ground creates a 414 00:31:17,311 --> 00:31:22,269 - strange closeness, but pleasant. - Correct. 415 00:31:22,553 --> 00:31:26,127 Which makes you open up feels very natural. 416 00:31:26,551 --> 00:31:31,468 - What are you talking about? - Anything. They are all kinds of people. 417 00:31:31,930 --> 00:31:35,149 Some still keep it a secret. 418 00:31:35,636 --> 00:31:40,394 Some don't see themselves as gay. They only enjoy sex with men. 419 00:31:41,898 --> 00:31:46,609 Some are very sad and full of guilt. 420 00:31:47,053 --> 00:31:51,469 Maybe they ran away from dinner family or children's party, 421 00:31:51,553 --> 00:31:53,217 and need to tell it. 422 00:31:55,078 --> 00:31:58,574 Some just want to talk about expressing yourself. 423 00:32:00,051 --> 00:32:01,904 - You've revealed yourself, right? - I? Yes. 424 00:32:02,544 --> 00:32:08,002 For me, it's easy. But you going to hear all these crazy stories. 425 00:32:08,086 --> 00:32:11,336 Parents cut off all contact. 426 00:32:14,099 --> 00:32:15,584 Really evil. 427 00:32:25,011 --> 00:32:30,011 Tonight, man the one I was matched with, he... 428 00:32:30,864 --> 00:32:36,321 He's not that type of guy that I would even consider. 429 00:32:37,261 --> 00:32:41,539 Then, we went to the roof. He wanted to show us something. 430 00:32:42,261 --> 00:32:46,751 Out there, suddenly I felt this extraordinary closeness. 431 00:32:47,553 --> 00:32:51,012 I can't control my hands. I grabbed her ass. 432 00:32:52,677 --> 00:32:56,787 - How did he react? - I've never done anything like that. 433 00:32:56,928 --> 00:33:00,844 How did he react? Yes, he was surprised. Like me. 434 00:33:01,394 --> 00:33:03,857 - But I think he likes it. - Do you like it? 435 00:33:04,024 --> 00:33:06,239 - Yes, I like it. - Okay. 436 00:33:06,928 --> 00:33:08,913 What kind of man is he? 437 00:33:10,411 --> 00:33:14,251 He's kind of cunning, warm and naughty, all at once. 438 00:33:15,171 --> 00:33:16,931 What kind of man what excites you? 439 00:33:17,928 --> 00:33:22,178 I don't know. It feels really unpredictable. 440 00:33:22,415 --> 00:33:24,149 And you? What excites you? 441 00:33:25,210 --> 00:33:29,841 - I think a certain skin type. - Yes? 442 00:33:30,008 --> 00:33:32,226 It's quite difficult to explain. 443 00:33:33,176 --> 00:33:36,606 I can get excited because of sweat. 444 00:33:38,850 --> 00:33:41,936 Skin on the inner thighs when you sweat... 445 00:33:42,020 --> 00:33:43,207 OK. 446 00:33:44,187 --> 00:33:46,924 I can be passionate because of various things. 447 00:33:48,358 --> 00:33:50,838 Will you see him again? 448 00:33:52,011 --> 00:33:54,308 That Nesodden guy? Yes. Yes? 449 00:33:54,449 --> 00:33:55,921 Or not? I don't... 450 00:33:57,678 --> 00:34:01,188 I don't know. These things always be very complicated. 451 00:34:03,688 --> 00:34:08,077 Wish I had sex with him tonight, and didn't see him again. 452 00:34:09,003 --> 00:34:13,301 Because you're not looking for a girlfriend? 453 00:34:14,594 --> 00:34:15,733 Yes and no. 454 00:34:17,303 --> 00:34:19,835 - Do you have a table next to the bed? - Bedside table? 455 00:34:20,848 --> 00:34:26,127 Yes, there are two. I saved it in storage when I lived in the cabin. 456 00:34:26,811 --> 00:34:28,015 Why do you ask? 457 00:34:36,053 --> 00:34:38,214 - You're getting off here? - Yes. Are you staying? 458 00:34:39,242 --> 00:34:40,161 Good luck. 459 00:34:40,261 --> 00:34:41,941 - Thank You. - Bye. 460 00:36:01,824 --> 00:36:02,824 O. 461 00:36:04,371 --> 00:36:05,371 O. 462 00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:09,060 Do you have a night fun so far? 463 00:36:09,084 --> 00:36:10,107 Lovely night? 464 00:36:12,420 --> 00:36:13,528 I'm just working. 465 00:36:14,678 --> 00:36:17,908 - Now? Going home to your partner? - No. 466 00:36:18,864 --> 00:36:21,128 No, there are no partners. 467 00:36:23,678 --> 00:36:27,084 - Why do you work so late? - I have a patient. 468 00:36:27,227 --> 00:36:29,102 - I'm a psychologist. - Wow! 469 00:36:29,938 --> 00:36:32,852 Yes? I think so too. 470 00:36:33,149 --> 00:36:34,149 Wow. 471 00:36:36,653 --> 00:36:38,359 So, what is it like? 472 00:36:40,238 --> 00:36:46,079 Right now, it feels like work at the factory. Assembly part. 473 00:36:46,246 --> 00:36:47,246 How could that be? 474 00:36:48,498 --> 00:36:49,565 How can... 475 00:36:52,303 --> 00:36:53,465 I mean, 476 00:36:54,491 --> 00:36:57,731 if you grow up 477 00:36:58,886 --> 00:37:04,015 with hope, in life it should not be there is something painful or challenging, 478 00:37:05,513 --> 00:37:08,335 you will be destroyed even from the slightest difficulty. 479 00:37:08,678 --> 00:37:11,614 You would think if you experienced bad days are not normal. 480 00:37:12,480 --> 00:37:13,776 And you need care. 481 00:37:16,399 --> 00:37:19,593 It almost felt wrong to say, but I... 482 00:37:21,737 --> 00:37:26,090 Sometimes, I just want to say to them to make themselves aware. 483 00:37:27,454 --> 00:37:28,767 Will be much cheaper. 484 00:37:30,498 --> 00:37:33,498 Good. I saw you on Grindr. 485 00:37:34,667 --> 00:37:39,466 - I'm not very interested in... - I can go. 486 00:37:39,591 --> 00:37:42,888 No, you can stay here. 487 00:37:44,513 --> 00:37:49,029 Besides, what are you looking for a partner or just sex? 488 00:37:49,599 --> 00:37:53,634 - "Just" sex? Nothing is "just" sex. - No? 489 00:37:54,481 --> 00:37:55,586 Oh no. 490 00:37:57,732 --> 00:38:00,487 I do not think so. However, not for most. 491 00:38:00,571 --> 00:38:02,793 But you might be someone who often has sex? 492 00:38:03,969 --> 00:38:07,985 Yes. I think I... Yes. 493 00:38:08,553 --> 00:38:10,876 - With many different partners? - Yes. 494 00:38:12,663 --> 00:38:15,377 - No permanent partner? - No, I... 495 00:38:17,126 --> 00:38:19,428 - I'll sit there if I can. - Yes. 496 00:38:21,473 --> 00:38:23,911 I'm fine by not having a permanent partner. 497 00:38:27,264 --> 00:38:28,544 If so, how does it feel? 498 00:38:29,053 --> 00:38:31,635 Having sex, lately? 499 00:38:33,768 --> 00:38:36,898 Yes, that's... Are you kidding me? 500 00:38:37,524 --> 00:38:38,710 - No. - No? 501 00:38:39,818 --> 00:38:41,941 How does it feel having sex lately... 502 00:38:43,194 --> 00:38:46,533 That's good. What do you mean exactly? 503 00:38:47,323 --> 00:38:50,347 Who knows. Do you feel safe? 504 00:38:50,651 --> 00:38:52,331 Safe? Yes. 505 00:38:54,497 --> 00:38:56,588 But no, not everyone feels safe. 506 00:38:57,135 --> 00:38:59,218 Some bodies are very tense 507 00:38:59,553 --> 00:39:03,412 so you can see how hard it is they try to get anything out. 508 00:39:03,508 --> 00:39:06,160 Whether it's semen or emotions. 509 00:39:07,553 --> 00:39:12,100 - They probably watch a lot of porn. - Correct. Don't you recommend that? 510 00:39:12,184 --> 00:39:13,184 Porn? Of course. 511 00:39:14,350 --> 00:39:18,707 That can help you find that you like, if nothing else. 512 00:39:19,691 --> 00:39:20,752 Deviant things? 513 00:39:22,511 --> 00:39:25,632 Digressing... Well then, what's wrong? 514 00:39:27,803 --> 00:39:29,414 Isn't that mostly here? 515 00:39:32,553 --> 00:39:37,948 I don't know. I think most things can be fun. 516 00:39:38,291 --> 00:39:41,458 I can enjoy sex with many men at once. 517 00:39:41,546 --> 00:39:43,899 Or get peed on. 518 00:39:45,589 --> 00:39:49,506 I think both can be very exciting. 519 00:39:51,429 --> 00:39:55,202 But when it happened, I... do not consider it as deviant. 520 00:39:56,017 --> 00:39:57,449 - No? - Just good. 521 00:39:58,678 --> 00:39:59,910 Or fun. 522 00:40:02,607 --> 00:40:05,082 But maybe that's it what do you mean by deviant? 523 00:40:07,194 --> 00:40:08,435 No, I... 524 00:40:09,616 --> 00:40:10,785 I don't know. 525 00:40:13,993 --> 00:40:18,337 You're not interested in anything? Neither sex nor boyfriend? 526 00:40:20,585 --> 00:40:21,911 As if it were the opposite? 527 00:40:23,544 --> 00:40:26,909 Don't most people want both? 528 00:40:27,511 --> 00:40:31,345 Multiple sex partners and a person who loves you exclusively? 529 00:40:32,386 --> 00:40:36,597 - Isn't that the dilemma? - It doesn't have to be a dilemma. 530 00:40:40,021 --> 00:40:45,021 I'm so careless. I haven't asked what you do for a living. 531 00:40:45,316 --> 00:40:47,805 Or if you have a night fun, or whatever. 532 00:40:48,947 --> 00:40:52,453 I'm sorry about that. That's very rude. 533 00:40:52,698 --> 00:40:56,934 I'm not usually selfish yourself. It's nice of you to come to me. 534 00:40:58,454 --> 00:41:02,639 I appreciate that, but just so you know. Now, we're almost there. 535 00:41:04,210 --> 00:41:06,982 - I think I should go back inside. - Of course. 536 00:41:07,591 --> 00:41:09,009 Have a nice evening. 537 00:41:14,011 --> 00:41:15,135 What's your name? 538 00:41:16,678 --> 00:41:19,309 - I'm Bjorn. - Bjorn. 539 00:41:20,928 --> 00:41:22,626 My name is Tor. 540 00:41:24,232 --> 00:41:25,232 So. 541 00:41:27,277 --> 00:41:28,277 Bye, Tor. 542 00:41:29,738 --> 00:41:30,779 Bye, Bjorn. 543 00:41:38,622 --> 00:41:40,001 Am I going to die? 544 00:41:40,511 --> 00:41:42,816 No, you won't die. 545 00:41:43,460 --> 00:41:44,573 It's just... 546 00:41:49,841 --> 00:41:52,081 I don't feel it like someone who has cancer. 547 00:41:52,802 --> 00:41:53,802 No. 548 00:41:54,974 --> 00:41:58,267 I realized this is very painful news. 549 00:41:59,226 --> 00:42:02,098 But you came to me early. You came here early. 550 00:42:02,261 --> 00:42:06,188 - You'll be fine. - Yes. 551 00:42:08,065 --> 00:42:10,682 The prognosis is very good. Keep that in mind. 552 00:42:11,213 --> 00:42:13,533 But you told me what if I have to undergo treatment? 553 00:42:14,866 --> 00:42:17,326 We will find out the best care for you. 554 00:42:17,439 --> 00:42:22,623 That's between chemotherapy, radiation, or surgery, right? 555 00:42:23,164 --> 00:42:26,086 Most likely, yes. 556 00:42:26,419 --> 00:42:27,964 I can't. 557 00:42:29,172 --> 00:42:30,480 I can't do that! 558 00:42:31,881 --> 00:42:36,318 I can't be a bald man on television talking about it. 559 00:42:36,888 --> 00:42:39,675 But you don't need to do that. 560 00:42:40,097 --> 00:42:45,105 - Nobody should do that. - I'm not like that! 561 00:42:45,227 --> 00:42:47,564 THURSDAY, AUGUST 14 562 00:42:47,688 --> 00:42:49,150 I think he's like that. 563 00:42:49,317 --> 00:42:52,983 It is written that he is a comic. Have you heard of him? 564 00:42:53,303 --> 00:42:58,150 - Yes. Do you find it difficult to have empathy? - No. 565 00:42:58,616 --> 00:43:03,579 I have a lot of empathy for him. But this will benefit him financially. 566 00:43:04,288 --> 00:43:08,547 He will get a lot of sympathy on Instagram, writing a book. 567 00:43:08,631 --> 00:43:11,538 But with that said, it's good. Maybe it will help someone else. 568 00:43:11,921 --> 00:43:16,258 But he would be another example who successfully overcame the disease. 569 00:43:16,342 --> 00:43:20,462 It can make other people feel like failures for not coping well enough. 570 00:43:20,808 --> 00:43:23,820 - So. - Who knows? Going to lunch? 571 00:43:24,011 --> 00:43:28,447 No, I'm taking time off. Josef replaced for me. There he is. 572 00:43:28,947 --> 00:43:32,512 - Hi. - A "Joel" just contacted you. 573 00:43:33,171 --> 00:43:36,651 - Joel? - Personal. He wants you to call him. 574 00:43:36,821 --> 00:43:39,325 Could it be "Hoel"? Ole Harald Hoel? 575 00:43:39,409 --> 00:43:40,741 I didn't hear it. 576 00:43:40,825 --> 00:43:44,007 - I'll make a quick call. - Of course. I go. 577 00:43:44,662 --> 00:43:45,999 - Okay. Bye. - Bye. 578 00:43:54,007 --> 00:43:56,757 - Someone you know? - Possible? 579 00:44:22,553 --> 00:44:25,844 O! Do you recognize me? 580 00:44:25,928 --> 00:44:27,831 - From the ship? - Yes. 581 00:44:28,178 --> 00:44:29,578 On your way home? 582 00:44:31,461 --> 00:44:32,729 What is it? 583 00:44:34,553 --> 00:44:36,790 Hey, let me see. 584 00:44:37,384 --> 00:44:40,300 - Can you breathe? - I don't know what's wrong. 585 00:44:40,553 --> 00:44:42,037 Can you raise your arm? 586 00:44:42,720 --> 00:44:45,692 Hey, can you raise your arm? Yes, good. 587 00:44:46,309 --> 00:44:48,949 - I'm fine. - Look at me. 588 00:44:50,272 --> 00:44:52,491 It seems like there really is something. 589 00:44:53,900 --> 00:44:55,338 Did you get bad news? 590 00:44:56,862 --> 00:44:58,151 - I'm fine. - Yes? 591 00:45:00,803 --> 00:45:02,172 Thank You. 592 00:45:05,078 --> 00:45:07,636 - Hey. - Listen, I'm fine. 593 00:45:08,392 --> 00:45:11,083 - Are you sure? - Yes, very much. 594 00:45:40,053 --> 00:45:43,053 "I have an innate sense of love for humanity." 595 00:45:44,156 --> 00:45:45,911 For all humans. 596 00:45:46,325 --> 00:45:47,999 And affection too. 597 00:45:48,986 --> 00:45:51,775 I don't think I can to have only one man. 598 00:45:52,581 --> 00:45:56,504 It feels almost childish if you only love one person. 599 00:45:57,464 --> 00:45:59,533 I will never be faithful either. 600 00:45:59,925 --> 00:46:03,936 "Not because of other men, but because I am made up of so many people." 601 00:46:06,512 --> 00:46:08,683 What book is that? 602 00:46:09,932 --> 00:46:13,928 This is a diary. Her name is Etty Hillesum. 603 00:46:14,011 --> 00:46:17,094 That is his name. I read his diary and letters. 604 00:46:17,314 --> 00:46:20,529 I read the last one on the way come here. I like it very much. 605 00:46:21,386 --> 00:46:23,969 - Do you think it's good for me? - I don't know. 606 00:46:24,171 --> 00:46:25,811 You can borrow it after I'm finished. 607 00:46:27,241 --> 00:46:32,752 - What are you reading? If there are? - I mostly read scientific literature. 608 00:46:34,289 --> 00:46:37,052 I don't really like stories. 609 00:46:37,501 --> 00:46:39,381 "Then, this happened, then, this happened." 610 00:46:40,011 --> 00:46:45,931 - It doesn't feel real to me. - Correct. But diaries are different. 611 00:46:46,802 --> 00:46:53,603 Unpredictable, and composed from things both past and present. 612 00:46:53,726 --> 00:46:55,954 Has no retroactive logic. 613 00:46:58,567 --> 00:47:00,076 I mostly read about rocks. 614 00:47:01,369 --> 00:47:05,594 I also wrote about rocks. I guess I write more than I read. 615 00:47:05,678 --> 00:47:09,531 - So. - I usually sit in that chair. 616 00:47:10,189 --> 00:47:13,022 - And write. - About rocks. 617 00:47:13,122 --> 00:47:16,887 About stones. With a blanket covering me. 618 00:47:17,678 --> 00:47:19,271 Try it. It was very comfortable. 619 00:47:19,713 --> 00:47:21,361 Thank You. 620 00:47:25,257 --> 00:47:28,677 So, here you sit with your laptop and write? 621 00:47:29,768 --> 00:47:31,771 Oh, I mostly write by hand. 622 00:47:32,350 --> 00:47:33,362 Really? 623 00:48:01,460 --> 00:48:05,091 It occurred to me that we never had see anyone's handwriting again. 624 00:48:05,592 --> 00:48:06,626 So, this is my writing. 625 00:48:07,344 --> 00:48:08,575 What do you think? 626 00:48:15,557 --> 00:48:19,311 I THINK IT LOOKS FIRM THIS IS MY HANDWRITING 627 00:48:20,687 --> 00:48:23,101 Thank you. It's visible 628 00:48:24,778 --> 00:48:26,311 like ancient? 629 00:48:28,251 --> 00:48:33,678 - Oh yes. - But I have to apologize. 630 00:48:34,719 --> 00:48:36,968 I plan to make dinner for you. 631 00:48:38,959 --> 00:48:40,645 I like cooking. 632 00:48:41,750 --> 00:48:44,422 But everything things didn't go according to plan today. 633 00:48:44,511 --> 00:48:47,178 That snack was delicious. 634 00:48:48,715 --> 00:48:50,011 But, 635 00:48:51,930 --> 00:48:52,930 urologist? 636 00:48:54,803 --> 00:48:57,303 Yes, urologist. 637 00:48:57,724 --> 00:48:59,563 I thought. 638 00:48:59,879 --> 00:49:04,938 The stomach, this part of the body, is 639 00:49:06,400 --> 00:49:09,416 what we think as the most intimate. 640 00:49:11,553 --> 00:49:15,219 This can be a source of fun. 641 00:49:15,303 --> 00:49:20,817 We associate it with urination, big, things that people find disgusting. 642 00:49:22,261 --> 00:49:29,803 So, it is associated with shame whether the area is working or not. 643 00:49:31,678 --> 00:49:34,765 - But geologists? - Yes. 644 00:49:36,180 --> 00:49:38,101 - Please tell me. - Yes. 645 00:49:39,678 --> 00:49:46,796 Many became geologists to work in the petroleum industry. 646 00:49:47,983 --> 00:49:52,824 That might be my goal too, before I start. 647 00:49:52,977 --> 00:49:55,669 Before I realized what a rock was. 648 00:49:56,053 --> 00:49:59,303 - Before you really liked rocks. - Yes. Yes? 649 00:49:59,504 --> 00:50:02,769 At this point, rocks are possible is the most important thing in my life. 650 00:50:03,582 --> 00:50:04,622 And I can... 651 00:50:06,411 --> 00:50:10,197 I can hear the rocks singing. 652 00:50:14,471 --> 00:50:16,869 If I... 653 00:50:17,012 --> 00:50:18,600 I love doing this. 654 00:50:19,366 --> 00:50:24,511 As I lay on a rock or on a small hill by the sea, 655 00:50:25,103 --> 00:50:30,520 and put my ear to it over the rocks, I can hear it. 656 00:50:33,278 --> 00:50:36,252 There is no magical thinking involved. 657 00:50:37,136 --> 00:50:39,659 It's just a combination 658 00:50:40,747 --> 00:50:44,044 the physical sensation of the stone on the skin, 659 00:50:44,178 --> 00:50:46,986 and everything I know about rocks. 660 00:50:47,303 --> 00:50:53,555 I think it's a merger of knowledge and physical sensations 661 00:50:54,928 --> 00:50:58,363 which gives a feeling about the pulse of life. 662 00:51:00,386 --> 00:51:06,344 That's something I can hear, but that also applies to you. 663 00:51:06,690 --> 00:51:07,951 You can hear it too. 664 00:51:08,272 --> 00:51:12,320 That... That goes for you too. 665 00:51:14,736 --> 00:51:17,218 When I started my master's degree, 666 00:51:17,864 --> 00:51:24,833 I have a friend who made it for me topographic model of Oslo. 667 00:51:25,038 --> 00:51:33,038 It was the first time I find the poetic aspect of... 668 00:51:33,425 --> 00:51:35,722 I want to see that model. 669 00:51:36,303 --> 00:51:38,865 - I still have it. - No, really? 670 00:51:39,347 --> 00:51:40,483 - Yes? - Yes. 671 00:51:41,178 --> 00:51:43,136 Yes. 672 00:52:04,206 --> 00:52:05,206 Wow! 673 00:52:07,998 --> 00:52:10,253 - Large enough! - Yes. 674 00:52:12,255 --> 00:52:14,387 - Good, right? - Very good! 675 00:52:17,299 --> 00:52:22,149 I like how the species is Different ones have different colors. 676 00:52:22,261 --> 00:52:25,348 You can feel their properties. 677 00:52:26,011 --> 00:52:29,833 - What's that? - Thin sedimentary rock. 678 00:52:31,066 --> 00:52:32,977 And the one over here? 679 00:52:35,070 --> 00:52:36,505 Limestone. 680 00:53:04,803 --> 00:53:06,124 What's on your mind? 681 00:53:06,807 --> 00:53:09,938 Your skin. I like it very much. 682 00:53:12,104 --> 00:53:15,066 I really like that you are so passionate about your profession. 683 00:53:16,803 --> 00:53:19,811 Yes? I also care about other things. 684 00:53:22,011 --> 00:53:26,456 What do I like most in this world is spending time with my daughter. 685 00:53:27,897 --> 00:53:29,872 They are the most important in my life. 686 00:53:31,289 --> 00:53:36,065 Didn't you just say rocks? So, what, rocks or children? 687 00:53:37,421 --> 00:53:42,599 Both of them. It's not like you have to choose one. 688 00:53:43,763 --> 00:53:47,964 Only language deceives us so that we think like that. 689 00:53:53,356 --> 00:53:54,356 What? 690 00:53:55,400 --> 00:54:00,353 I just listen to you. I think you might like this book. 691 00:54:04,030 --> 00:54:06,177 Do you maybe want to spend the night here? 692 00:54:07,954 --> 00:54:09,239 Yes, I want to. 693 00:54:10,832 --> 00:54:13,266 But I won't do it. I think I'll go. 694 00:55:20,941 --> 00:55:24,327 - Is it OK if I sit here? - Of course. 695 00:55:30,534 --> 00:55:32,956 - So... - Yes? 696 00:55:33,370 --> 00:55:36,713 - Yes. - What brings you here, to this ship? 697 00:55:36,998 --> 00:55:40,672 I'm just visiting someone. Now, I'm going home. 698 00:55:40,797 --> 00:55:42,503 - Who did you visit? - A friend. 699 00:55:43,088 --> 00:55:45,034 - Dinner? - Late night snack. 700 00:55:46,368 --> 00:55:47,728 "Late night snack in Nesodden"? 701 00:55:48,430 --> 00:55:49,789 Sounds like a folklore album. 702 00:55:52,184 --> 00:55:54,802 Candles, harmonica, 703 00:55:54,886 --> 00:55:58,541 -conspiracy theory, -Sure. I like folklore music. 704 00:55:59,191 --> 00:56:00,645 Yes. So am I. 705 00:56:02,736 --> 00:56:04,096 And you? Have you just finished work? 706 00:56:04,859 --> 00:56:08,091 I renovated the house. I've been laying floors all day. 707 00:56:12,120 --> 00:56:13,253 Unlucky. 708 00:56:14,011 --> 00:56:17,754 - It should rain today. - Is it a shame that it doesn't rain? 709 00:56:18,803 --> 00:56:20,523 Swimming when it rains it was a lot of fun. 710 00:56:27,511 --> 00:56:30,990 When I'm done with my day, I usually go swimming. 711 00:56:33,011 --> 00:56:35,309 The people I work with has a swimming area. 712 00:56:38,727 --> 00:56:41,606 - You don't like swimming? - I really like swimming. 713 00:56:44,232 --> 00:56:46,034 What are you doing when you're not swimming? 714 00:56:48,636 --> 00:56:49,782 Not many. 715 00:56:51,178 --> 00:56:53,499 - I do crossword puzzles. - Crossword puzzle? 716 00:56:54,909 --> 00:56:58,083 - You too? - No. I read. 717 00:56:58,622 --> 00:57:00,001 Oh I see. 718 00:57:00,511 --> 00:57:05,515 You liked the words that followed each other in order? 719 00:57:05,691 --> 00:57:11,375 - Of course. - So. I prefer mixed ones. 720 00:57:11,511 --> 00:57:16,526 - Like a mess that I have to make sense of. - Correct. 721 00:57:19,554 --> 00:57:21,772 You have very nice bangs. 722 00:57:23,980 --> 00:57:25,660 - Thank You. - May I... 723 00:57:39,178 --> 00:57:43,856 You know what we can do if we have a car? 724 00:57:45,752 --> 00:57:49,811 We can go to Paradise Bay, go for a swim, then make love. 725 00:57:51,803 --> 00:57:53,050 We can do that. 726 00:57:53,968 --> 00:57:55,149 Of course we can. 727 00:57:56,429 --> 00:58:00,223 But there are other places besides Paradise Bay. 728 00:58:10,247 --> 00:58:52,247 Every DP Directly Gets a 5% Bonus Playing Here Guarantee Wede WinJos Definitely Win. Jos Wede Visit https://super.winjos.today 729 00:59:59,969 --> 01:00:02,605 Why are you laughing? Do you think that's funny? 730 01:00:03,348 --> 01:00:07,176 I'm just so happy to meet you. I've never done this before. 731 01:00:07,357 --> 01:00:12,565 - Not spontaneously. How about you? - Yes, of course. Or yes. 732 01:00:12,816 --> 01:00:17,855 Actually quite often. Or yes, it depends. 733 01:00:17,939 --> 01:00:23,909 Now, my wife is gone visit his parents. His father is sick. 734 01:00:24,931 --> 01:00:27,091 Which gives me more time for myself. 735 01:00:28,053 --> 01:00:32,071 - Oh. You are married? - Of course. Have you yet? 736 01:00:32,344 --> 01:00:36,386 - Not yet. - I assume we both have. 737 01:00:36,673 --> 01:00:38,876 - Oh. - Okay. 738 01:00:40,426 --> 01:00:43,484 Yes alright. You look married. 739 01:00:44,889 --> 01:00:47,604 Does that surprise you? You look surprised. 740 01:00:47,934 --> 01:00:51,842 Married and surprised? Yes, maybe a little surprised. 741 01:00:52,021 --> 01:00:54,861 Surprised that you're on Tinder when you are married. 742 01:00:55,636 --> 01:01:00,152 - Aren't you afraid your wife will find out? - He's not on Tinder, right? 743 01:01:00,613 --> 01:01:03,745 - Who knows. But his friends, maybe. - No. 744 01:01:09,414 --> 01:01:13,194 You may not believe me, but I really love my wife. 745 01:01:14,544 --> 01:01:18,442 We have been married for 20 years. We'll be together in Voss this weekend. 746 01:01:19,299 --> 01:01:22,543 - You're from Voss? - Yes. My wife and I, both of us. 747 01:01:25,178 --> 01:01:30,788 I grew up in a place with distance half a km between the house and the mailbox. 748 01:01:32,011 --> 01:01:33,557 It does something to you. 749 01:01:34,803 --> 01:01:38,969 You can't imagine hope who woke up on that road. 750 01:01:39,736 --> 01:01:43,684 - I'm from Dokka. - Of course. You understand what I mean. 751 01:01:44,198 --> 01:01:46,364 I think your mailbox is also quite far. 752 01:01:47,576 --> 01:01:50,423 - Not even half a kilometer. - No, but you understand. 753 01:01:52,081 --> 01:01:55,339 If so, do you also understand if there is no relationship 754 01:01:55,422 --> 01:01:57,752 between hopes and the life you get. 755 01:01:58,796 --> 01:02:02,236 - But you're not married yet? - Not yet? Okay. 756 01:02:02,637 --> 01:02:05,195 Yes, if you say so. You know best. 757 01:02:05,636 --> 01:02:08,674 I do feel there's something different about you. 758 01:02:10,141 --> 01:02:14,992 Don't know about you, but most women the unmarried hope for something more. 759 01:02:15,178 --> 01:02:17,111 They may not admit it, but... 760 01:02:20,523 --> 01:02:23,852 I have a friend, and we are very I don't agree with this, but he... 761 01:02:25,907 --> 01:02:30,069 He thinks of every woman he meets with him on Tinder is a whore. 762 01:02:30,870 --> 01:02:36,213 I've never been together or visiting prostitutes. 763 01:02:36,303 --> 01:02:39,058 He had, before Tinder. But not with me. 764 01:02:39,879 --> 01:02:44,260 He told me that for him, Tinder is a “free brothel”. 765 01:02:46,303 --> 01:02:50,051 And you could say, that's true. But not only that. 766 01:02:50,515 --> 01:02:53,320 Because I see a lot of women who prostitute themselves, 767 01:02:53,404 --> 01:02:58,719 but with high hopes for something that is impossible to fulfill. 768 01:03:00,303 --> 01:03:02,665 It just makes me feel guilty. 769 01:03:06,756 --> 01:03:08,654 That's why I... No. 770 01:03:09,303 --> 01:03:14,907 I believe that you are married, your expectations become lower. 771 01:03:15,748 --> 01:03:17,003 And that... 772 01:03:22,968 --> 01:03:25,738 - Is that all wrong? - Not at all. 773 01:03:29,804 --> 01:03:31,881 Don't you feel guilty? towards your wife? 774 01:03:32,310 --> 01:03:35,352 Of course I feel guilty. Very. 775 01:03:35,935 --> 01:03:39,019 Of course I feel guilty, but it's very different! 776 01:03:44,303 --> 01:03:49,972 You might think that I am the biggest jerk on the planet. 777 01:03:51,051 --> 01:03:53,011 But there are so many the sex drive in me. 778 01:03:54,386 --> 01:03:56,430 And I... 779 01:03:57,630 --> 01:04:01,403 I really like humans! That human... 780 01:04:03,129 --> 01:04:07,555 You seem like a good person, and what we just shared, 781 01:04:09,010 --> 01:04:12,489 it's something much different from... 782 01:04:13,560 --> 01:04:14,848 From the moment with someone else. 783 01:04:17,101 --> 01:04:21,146 So, I thought, Why does it have to be so wrong? 784 01:04:23,775 --> 01:04:26,448 Of course my conscience felt guilty. 785 01:04:31,578 --> 01:04:33,234 I think you're spoiling this a bit. 786 01:04:35,469 --> 01:04:39,143 - How could that be? I said something? - No, I just... 787 01:04:41,546 --> 01:04:43,083 I think I should go home. 788 01:04:46,764 --> 01:04:48,500 You don't really know me. 789 01:04:50,138 --> 01:04:51,138 But I... 790 01:04:53,433 --> 01:04:55,007 But I'm a good guy. 791 01:04:55,928 --> 01:04:59,318 Yes, I really believe that. You are a good man. 792 01:05:00,353 --> 01:05:02,548 Of course. But... 793 01:05:03,523 --> 01:05:08,304 Can't you stay a while? You look very tense. 794 01:05:08,803 --> 01:05:11,719 No, I have to go home. 795 01:05:11,803 --> 01:05:14,560 - Thank you for this evening. I am happy. - Thank You. 796 01:05:15,678 --> 01:05:16,678 Bye. 797 01:05:28,923 --> 01:05:32,806 SUNDAY, AUGUST 17 798 01:06:11,757 --> 01:06:15,182 MONDAY, AUGUST 18 799 01:06:29,928 --> 01:06:33,742 Did he really say that Tinder it's like a free brothel? 800 01:06:36,908 --> 01:06:39,827 - Yes. - Then, what are you? A prostitute? 801 01:06:40,536 --> 01:06:43,710 Yes, or him. I have no other intentions. 802 01:06:44,336 --> 01:06:46,342 I just want to have sex with him. 803 01:06:47,293 --> 01:06:50,291 We want the same things, so, it happened. 804 01:06:50,880 --> 01:06:53,711 After that, he said things that no woman would say. 805 01:06:54,258 --> 01:06:57,517 But I'm not sure what that does be a bad person, morally speaking. 806 01:06:58,850 --> 01:07:00,396 Yes, he is married. 807 01:07:00,765 --> 01:07:03,118 Maybe I won't sleep with him if I knew. 808 01:07:03,564 --> 01:07:06,594 - That really surprised me. - Which part? 809 01:07:06,687 --> 01:07:10,232 That you just left from kissing Ole Harald 810 01:07:10,316 --> 01:07:16,405 to have sex with a stranger on the dock. 811 01:07:16,489 --> 01:07:18,703 That's really not a problem. 812 01:07:18,803 --> 01:07:23,704 It just makes me so happy. Feeling very free, you could say. 813 01:07:23,788 --> 01:07:28,400 Casual closeness with strangers can feel really good. 814 01:07:28,501 --> 01:07:32,081 You say it like you never have had casual sex before. 815 01:07:32,838 --> 01:07:36,721 It might be because of the situation, meeting on the ferry. 816 01:07:36,847 --> 01:07:39,170 It's much less committed rather than dating. 817 01:07:39,679 --> 01:07:43,080 Nothing like arranging to meet via Tinder, or sitting at the bar, 818 01:07:43,164 --> 01:07:45,205 that feels more like a transaction. 819 01:07:46,102 --> 01:07:50,317 No, it's just empty space. We met with the same intentions. 820 01:07:53,803 --> 01:07:57,306 - Am I boring you? - No, but you have to wear... 821 01:07:57,390 --> 01:07:59,223 Use it because they will... 822 01:08:30,062 --> 01:08:33,146 - Hi. - Hi. I've checked the hall. 823 01:08:33,553 --> 01:08:37,217 The hall is quite good, but it will be far it's better to do it here. 824 01:08:37,778 --> 01:08:43,992 With loudspeakers, people could hear it all over town. 825 01:08:44,076 --> 01:08:46,734 - Has the project been approved? - Not yet. 826 01:08:46,829 --> 01:08:52,088 - Looks like it won't be selected. - Won't be selected? Why? When? 827 01:08:52,293 --> 01:08:57,297 This morning. I intend to tell you, but you gave me that sex story. 828 01:08:57,381 --> 01:09:03,183 We still want to do something. Something here, a filmed concert. 829 01:09:03,413 --> 01:09:04,428 That could be really good. 830 01:09:04,511 --> 01:09:07,791 We have to look at the budget first. 831 01:09:08,094 --> 01:09:10,635 Not yet determined. 832 01:09:10,853 --> 01:09:14,579 Now, there's a lot of interest for projects involving. 833 01:09:14,690 --> 01:09:21,031 Knausgård curates about artists during World War II. Partisan art. 834 01:09:22,553 --> 01:09:26,803 I'll talk to the carillon player, and will come back later. 835 01:09:29,497 --> 01:09:32,963 I worked very hard for this. It gives me so much energy. 836 01:09:33,542 --> 01:09:37,838 But now I have to work with Knausgård and World War II? 837 01:09:37,922 --> 01:09:42,556 I felt miserable and my heart was empty. I just want to stop. 838 01:09:43,078 --> 01:09:44,556 You can't stop. 839 01:09:45,137 --> 01:09:48,632 I'm annoyed too with the things you do. 840 01:09:48,808 --> 01:09:51,481 I can't forget it, Marianne. 841 01:09:51,565 --> 01:09:55,928 Straight from kissing a geologist to have sex with the carpenter! 842 01:09:57,303 --> 01:10:01,908 - You're the most responsible person! - You think that's irresponsible? 843 01:10:02,303 --> 01:10:05,906 - I don't know. - I don't think so. 844 01:10:06,246 --> 01:10:08,593 I guess my morals are very strict. 845 01:10:08,928 --> 01:10:12,941 It's not about sex, but how we treat each other. 846 01:10:13,530 --> 01:10:17,821 This is what you articulated very well during the City Hall Tour! 847 01:10:17,920 --> 01:10:21,581 You talk about freedom, about sexual freedom... 848 01:10:21,665 --> 01:10:25,177 Yes, and lots of it that comes from you. 849 01:10:25,531 --> 01:10:28,451 It's all about you. Of course you realize that? 850 01:10:29,181 --> 01:10:33,330 - Doing things I can't do. - But will you like it? 851 01:10:33,800 --> 01:10:35,229 Oh, I don't know. 852 01:10:36,136 --> 01:10:39,024 I think, you could say, I feel threatened by that. 853 01:10:39,210 --> 01:10:42,861 Your freedom. Your behavior is crossing the line. 854 01:10:43,362 --> 01:10:45,076 But what about me? 855 01:10:45,178 --> 01:10:51,594 Someone who is shy, weak, boring, afraid to live life? 856 01:10:51,678 --> 01:10:55,011 - Not about that, Heidi. - Deep in my heart, I know that. 857 01:10:55,094 --> 01:10:59,135 But when I'm with you, I think so. You made me think like that. 858 01:10:59,223 --> 01:11:01,765 But that doesn't mean my life is boring, 859 01:11:01,883 --> 01:11:04,995 even though I didn't sleep with a foreign carpenter. 860 01:11:05,843 --> 01:11:12,913 Sleeping with a carpenter doesn't make me full of free spirit and my life is beautiful. 861 01:11:13,511 --> 01:11:16,136 I'm not even that interested in sex. 862 01:11:16,687 --> 01:11:21,801 It just happens, as it does something else, and I really enjoyed it. 863 01:11:21,981 --> 01:11:28,080 Good. But things got complicated for me about Ole Harald too. He's my friend! 864 01:11:28,678 --> 01:11:34,208 I met him on the ferry. Him had a great time, and wanted to call you. 865 01:11:34,292 --> 01:11:36,526 No, really? I'm so happy to hear that! 866 01:11:38,501 --> 01:11:42,683 Heidi, I really like it. I think he's extraordinary. 867 01:11:43,506 --> 01:11:47,599 - What did you say? Will you see him again? - Maybe, who knows? 868 01:11:48,379 --> 01:11:51,594 But I'm pretty sure that we are won't be a couple. 869 01:11:51,678 --> 01:11:56,219 It became quite clear when he... said that his daughter was the most important. 870 01:11:56,303 --> 01:12:01,024 - Why? Do you want to be the most important? - No, of course not. 871 01:12:01,315 --> 01:12:04,279 It just made me realize how complicated this is. 872 01:12:04,678 --> 01:12:08,517 His daughters had to be the most important thing in his life. 873 01:12:09,011 --> 01:12:12,789 But they may not feel that way if someone else comes into their life. 874 01:12:13,206 --> 01:12:18,610 - You can't think that, Marianne. - No? I am the child of divorced parents. 875 01:12:19,178 --> 01:12:22,265 Don't think about the kids that would be very selfish! 876 01:12:22,564 --> 01:12:27,064 If I dated Ole Harald, I have to be involved in his life. 877 01:12:27,261 --> 01:12:32,094 Isn't that great, getting involved in life someone? His daughter will like you. 878 01:12:32,388 --> 01:12:34,973 Yes, maybe so, but... 879 01:12:35,057 --> 01:12:37,983 Getting involved means taking responsibility. 880 01:12:38,176 --> 01:12:40,799 The family had problems. 881 01:12:41,011 --> 01:12:44,786 Two insecure kids and an ex the wife next door who drinks. 882 01:12:45,203 --> 01:12:47,694 You think Solveig has a drinking problem? 883 01:12:48,250 --> 01:12:49,873 - Yes. - I don't think so. 884 01:12:50,243 --> 01:12:53,607 That's typical alcoholic behavior. Reminds me of my father. 885 01:12:55,531 --> 01:13:00,131 Yes, if you see all this, children who feel unsafe, 886 01:13:00,386 --> 01:13:04,469 - isn't this the right time... - For someone to get involved? No. 887 01:13:04,553 --> 01:13:10,094 I'm not right for that responsibility. Responsible move, step away. 888 01:13:10,239 --> 01:13:14,206 That's too cynical, Marianne. 889 01:13:14,303 --> 01:13:18,618 - I think getting involved is more cynical. - No. 890 01:13:19,481 --> 01:13:24,134 I feel in the bottom of my heart if you're wrong. 891 01:13:24,218 --> 01:13:27,817 If I have to get involved, it was with Solveig. He is the one who needs it the most. 892 01:13:29,570 --> 01:13:34,031 FRIDAY, AUGUST 22 893 01:13:36,311 --> 01:13:37,996 Did you check the surgery schedule? 894 01:13:40,331 --> 01:13:42,791 - Can I ask something? - Yes. 895 01:13:43,178 --> 01:13:47,292 Is it okay to go to the ward to say hello patients who have just had surgery? 896 01:13:47,928 --> 01:13:50,844 Is he someone you know, Or has he ever been here? 897 01:13:50,928 --> 01:13:53,508 Yes, he has, but... 898 01:13:54,219 --> 01:13:57,492 - I mean, the people you deal with. - No, not here. 899 01:13:58,436 --> 01:14:00,590 I don't know him, not like... 900 01:14:02,686 --> 01:14:05,694 I met him first time on a ferry. 901 01:14:09,011 --> 01:14:11,077 First on Grindr, then, on deck. 902 01:14:12,446 --> 01:14:17,449 Nothing happened, we just talked, then he kissed my cheek. 903 01:14:18,678 --> 01:14:22,469 But that's all. He knows if I work here. 904 01:14:22,553 --> 01:14:25,469 Okay. I don't know what to say. 905 01:14:25,553 --> 01:14:29,518 - Why visit him? Are you interested? - No! 906 01:14:30,093 --> 01:14:31,573 - No. - No? 907 01:14:32,011 --> 01:14:35,360 I just want to see the condition. Out of kindness alone, really. 908 01:14:36,387 --> 01:14:38,141 But it can be misinterpreted... 909 01:14:41,178 --> 01:14:45,844 Do you think it's okay to accept an invitation to dinner 910 01:14:46,051 --> 01:14:48,771 from a man who I pretty sure I don't want to get involved? 911 01:14:49,074 --> 01:14:54,200 Yes, as long as you are doesn't give the same impression... 912 01:14:55,553 --> 01:14:59,462 - You might say yes. - That's the problem. 913 01:14:59,701 --> 01:15:00,786 So? 914 01:15:01,928 --> 01:15:06,719 - Visiting as a nurse. Not you. - Yes. 915 01:15:08,011 --> 01:15:10,844 Hi, Carina. I'm just going to see the patient. 916 01:15:10,928 --> 01:15:12,400 Please do that. 917 01:15:17,845 --> 01:15:20,685 O. I'll just look at your neighbors. 918 01:15:24,727 --> 01:15:29,162 O. I'm just thinking if I would see... 919 01:15:29,246 --> 01:15:32,871 I can't find charger for my phone. 920 01:15:33,928 --> 01:15:37,053 What is this one? 921 01:15:38,866 --> 01:15:42,457 Oh, there. Can you install it for me? 922 01:15:44,928 --> 01:15:46,848 - Thank You. - I'll put it there. 923 01:15:47,249 --> 01:15:53,093 I heard you had surgery yesterday, and it goes well? 924 01:15:53,178 --> 01:15:57,686 Yes, the prostate is gone. 925 01:15:58,303 --> 01:16:01,928 - Hope they take it all. - Yes, I hope so. 926 01:16:02,011 --> 01:16:04,194 How did you know I was here? 927 01:16:04,511 --> 01:16:08,344 Yes, I work here. I just checked the surgery schedule. 928 01:16:09,021 --> 01:16:13,091 - You don't know my name. - It's not difficult to find out. 929 01:16:14,511 --> 01:16:20,385 I know your name is Bjørn, and I met with you in the corridor after your schedule. 930 01:16:21,303 --> 01:16:26,178 I think about you a lot after our last meeting. 931 01:16:26,291 --> 01:16:30,219 - I shouldn't have left you like that. - Oh. Don't think about that. 932 01:16:30,303 --> 01:16:35,928 - I can tell how stressed you are. - I just don't want anyone around. 933 01:16:37,428 --> 01:16:39,367 - I understand. - Yes. 934 01:16:40,219 --> 01:16:45,355 Anyway, glad you are underwent surgery so quickly. 935 01:16:45,439 --> 01:16:49,576 - Yes, that's amazing. - How do you feel now? 936 01:16:50,312 --> 01:16:56,239 Not bad, aside I feel very bloated. 937 01:16:56,785 --> 01:16:58,457 That's the worst part. 938 01:16:58,553 --> 01:17:03,469 It happens when they pump your stomach for laparoscopic surgery. 939 01:17:03,617 --> 01:17:06,201 You have to walk. Fart. 940 01:17:06,291 --> 01:17:10,153 - Yes, they told me so. - Do you want to walk now? 941 01:17:10,553 --> 01:17:12,637 - Now? - Sure, I can walk with you. 942 01:17:13,215 --> 01:17:15,086 - Listen, no... - Come on. 943 01:17:15,170 --> 01:17:20,972 - I don't think I can stand up. - I can help. Is this yours? 944 01:17:21,264 --> 01:17:22,991 Yes, but... 945 01:17:25,013 --> 01:17:28,313 - Let's do this. - Be careful with that one. 946 01:17:32,303 --> 01:17:33,719 Thank You. 947 01:17:33,803 --> 01:17:35,496 - The other one. - Yes. This. 948 01:17:36,358 --> 01:17:39,405 - It's finished. - Please hold this. 949 01:17:39,548 --> 01:17:41,201 Of course. The wheels are locked. 950 01:17:43,851 --> 01:17:46,150 - Already. Ready? - Yes. 951 01:17:48,678 --> 01:17:49,726 Okay. 952 01:18:10,678 --> 01:18:13,561 - A little further. - I think I want to go back. Yes. 953 01:18:15,898 --> 01:18:17,222 - Yes? - Yes. 954 01:18:20,886 --> 01:18:24,267 There. It went well. 955 01:18:24,553 --> 01:18:26,718 I don't know about that. 956 01:18:32,456 --> 01:18:36,501 - When will they let you go home? - I think the day after tomorrow. 957 01:18:37,553 --> 01:18:39,469 - Maybe not true. - It's possible. 958 01:18:39,571 --> 01:18:42,165 - It will be faster than you think. - You think so? 959 01:18:42,262 --> 01:18:43,262 Yes. 960 01:18:45,011 --> 01:18:47,432 I'm thinking... 961 01:18:48,553 --> 01:18:52,624 Do you have someone to help you? With shopping and such. 962 01:18:52,886 --> 01:18:55,606 You should avoid lifting heavy items for several weeks. 963 01:18:55,636 --> 01:18:59,180 - I have friends. - Of course you have. 964 01:19:00,442 --> 01:19:03,603 - A friend will help. I'm okay. - Yes, good. 965 01:19:04,154 --> 01:19:07,046 What's your number? 966 01:19:09,178 --> 01:19:12,670 My number is 90-25-22-13. 967 01:19:14,044 --> 01:19:15,463 You don't need... 968 01:19:17,011 --> 01:19:20,428 - Now you also have my number. - Yes. 969 01:19:20,511 --> 01:19:25,291 If you need help for grocery shopping, or whatever. 970 01:19:26,139 --> 01:19:28,467 Call me. I mean it. 971 01:19:28,761 --> 01:19:30,910 After all, we live in Nesodden. 972 01:19:31,890 --> 01:19:34,641 If you live in Sarpsborg, I won't bother. 973 01:19:36,053 --> 01:19:39,989 - Remember to walk, so you pass gas. - I will do my best. 974 01:19:41,942 --> 01:19:44,571 - Thank you very much. - You're welcome. 975 01:19:44,987 --> 01:19:47,953 You're very good for checking my condition. 976 01:19:48,370 --> 01:19:50,871 Offered me help and everything. 977 01:19:52,053 --> 01:19:53,423 Bye, Bjorn. 978 01:19:54,553 --> 01:19:57,043 - You're going home to Nesodden? - Yes. 979 01:19:59,761 --> 01:20:02,635 That's the plan. Maybe me will drink coffee on the way. 980 01:20:03,303 --> 01:20:05,662 Or maybe a few beers before the ferry. 981 01:20:06,178 --> 01:20:08,102 You don't know how lucky you are. 982 01:20:09,599 --> 01:20:13,200 How amazing that sounds when you can't have it. 983 01:20:16,553 --> 01:20:19,055 Just sit somewhere and drink coffee. 984 01:20:20,735 --> 01:20:22,410 Seeing people. 985 01:21:35,222 --> 01:21:37,854 REALLY BJØRN, WHO ARE YOU? 986 01:21:37,952 --> 01:21:40,000 (TOR TOR:) 987 01:21:44,773 --> 01:21:48,990 BJØRN THAT WILL NOT BE ENOUGH FOR A PSYCHOLOGIST 988 01:21:54,616 --> 01:21:59,334 BJØRN I MAY RECEIVE YOUR HELP 989 01:22:02,754 --> 01:22:05,004 (NICE TOR:) 990 01:22:34,197 --> 01:22:37,038 MONDAY, AUGUST 25 991 01:22:41,803 --> 01:22:44,742 - Have you seen Elvestad? - The patient is already there. 992 01:22:49,384 --> 01:22:50,547 Excuse me. 993 01:22:51,381 --> 01:22:55,528 I have a clear agreement with Egil. I think this is strange. 994 01:22:55,612 --> 01:22:59,764 We had dinner together this weekend, and he said... He promised... 995 01:22:59,848 --> 01:23:02,779 - Yes, you have been directed to me. - Directed? 996 01:23:02,863 --> 01:23:05,529 If you want, I can check... 997 01:23:06,053 --> 01:23:09,428 - Have you seen Søyland? - Isn't he in the operating room? 998 01:23:09,511 --> 01:23:13,074 I think so too, but this patient has an appointment with him. 999 01:23:13,594 --> 01:23:17,909 There must be an error. This is very unfortunate. 1000 01:23:18,053 --> 01:23:21,689 - Can you contact him? - No, when he was in surgery. 1001 01:23:21,791 --> 01:23:28,432 - But I have your test results here. - No. You want the results from Egil. 1002 01:23:28,781 --> 01:23:30,960 Maybe you can contact him? 1003 01:23:31,678 --> 01:23:36,582 - I can check if he's in surgery. - Good. 1004 01:23:37,594 --> 01:23:40,928 We had the operation in Hamburg. 1005 01:23:41,011 --> 01:23:44,887 - Because the clinic is the best. - I'm sure you know. 1006 01:23:44,997 --> 01:23:48,538 - Except for Copenhagen. - That's also very good. 1007 01:23:48,803 --> 01:23:53,969 But when talking to Hamburg, I mentioned that we knew Egil. 1008 01:23:54,053 --> 01:24:00,648 They said, "Why go to Hamburg, when one of the best in Norway?" 1009 01:24:01,011 --> 01:24:07,804 The funny thing is uncle Egil, Håkon Søyland, treated my father. 1010 01:24:08,630 --> 01:24:12,081 Not for the same conditions. He's a heart surgeon. 1011 01:24:12,165 --> 01:24:17,290 And the cabin is next door my parents, near Mysuseter. 1012 01:24:17,389 --> 01:24:19,976 - So. What a coincidence. - Yes, right? 1013 01:24:20,060 --> 01:24:23,060 Egil is a surgeon which is amazing, of course. 1014 01:24:24,803 --> 01:24:30,219 He's done now. He's going down in... It was a little delayed. 1015 01:24:30,303 --> 01:24:32,594 He'll be down in ten minutes. 1016 01:24:32,678 --> 01:24:33,678 Thank You. 1017 01:24:35,860 --> 01:24:39,695 - Sverre's father lived to be 105. - He's gone now. 1018 01:24:39,811 --> 01:24:45,503 He died this spring, but he was lively and sharp to the end. 1019 01:24:45,886 --> 01:24:48,428 - Yes, right. - Some are very lucky. 1020 01:24:48,511 --> 01:24:53,236 - Right, and his brother is still alive. - Not my brother. My uncle. 1021 01:24:53,320 --> 01:24:57,265 Yes, his uncle. Oh, he's gay, but... 1022 01:24:57,678 --> 01:25:01,474 It's a shame because of him has no heirs, but... 1023 01:25:02,178 --> 01:25:06,415 He's lively, sure. We are getting very old in our family. 1024 01:25:06,511 --> 01:25:08,951 - Yes. - Yes that's correct. 1025 01:25:09,851 --> 01:25:14,934 Age 105? Some are very unpleasant to the point of wanting to take a shower after finishing talking. 1026 01:25:15,053 --> 01:25:16,500 Are you offended? 1027 01:25:17,319 --> 01:25:23,079 He is afraid of losing his partner, like everyone else. Fear of death. 1028 01:25:23,260 --> 01:25:27,451 - You're not offended? - Because he doesn't want me to check? 1029 01:25:27,584 --> 01:25:30,896 Egil speaks their language. I understand that well. 1030 01:25:31,303 --> 01:25:37,096 Other thing. Did you visit your Grindr friend? 1031 01:25:38,386 --> 01:25:40,146 Yes, I'm stopping by. 1032 01:25:42,803 --> 01:25:44,984 I offered to help grocery shopping. 1033 01:25:45,460 --> 01:25:48,592 That's the limit, you understand? 1034 01:25:49,309 --> 01:25:52,429 You cannot offer home care for people you meet on Grindr. 1035 01:25:53,063 --> 01:25:56,231 That's none of my business, but that also applies to me. 1036 01:25:56,358 --> 01:26:01,701 I can't provide special services just because our parents are neighbors. 1037 01:26:02,280 --> 01:26:05,108 - No. - No. There's one other thing. 1038 01:26:05,636 --> 01:26:10,476 If she's a girl you meet on Tinder, I would say no. 1039 01:26:10,560 --> 01:26:12,567 But now that's not the case, which confuses me. 1040 01:26:13,249 --> 01:26:16,247 Is it because you're both men which makes me... 1041 01:26:17,803 --> 01:26:21,719 After all, he is vulnerable patient, so I thought... 1042 01:26:21,803 --> 01:26:22,849 No, that's... 1043 01:26:25,261 --> 01:26:28,261 I'm not doing this to get close to him. 1044 01:26:28,353 --> 01:26:31,474 - I am not interested. - That's none of my business. 1045 01:26:31,594 --> 01:26:34,761 I don't think I sent it either confusing signals. 1046 01:26:35,553 --> 01:26:39,760 I just thought, help someone buying groceries is okay, right? 1047 01:26:43,428 --> 01:26:45,982 No, you're probably right. 1048 01:26:46,783 --> 01:26:50,759 - Of course you're right, but listen. - What? 1049 01:26:50,843 --> 01:26:55,739 Something I've been thinking about, that should be I said. For another topic. Yes? 1050 01:26:56,835 --> 01:27:01,970 This has nothing to do with Grindr, but it's something I think about a lot. 1051 01:27:02,053 --> 01:27:05,721 We often get gay patients. 1052 01:27:06,010 --> 01:27:08,254 I'm sure I do more often found them from you. 1053 01:27:09,060 --> 01:27:12,255 I can tell right away, and what I saw was... 1054 01:27:16,553 --> 01:27:21,696 Because I know the consequences of that diagnosis for them. 1055 01:27:22,240 --> 01:27:24,720 That's something that never happened you tell them. 1056 01:27:25,053 --> 01:27:28,428 You mentioned erectile dysfunction and sterility, 1057 01:27:28,511 --> 01:27:33,299 but you almost never mention it removing the prostate affects sex. 1058 01:27:33,803 --> 01:27:36,530 Not only loss of erection, but also lost... 1059 01:27:39,761 --> 01:27:46,234 During anal sex, if someone from behind, to be honest, 1060 01:27:46,803 --> 01:27:51,172 they pressed their dicks against my prostate. Which felt really good. 1061 01:27:51,886 --> 01:27:55,710 That's a huge part from the fun that... 1062 01:27:56,761 --> 01:27:59,487 Which will disappear when the prostate is removed. 1063 01:27:59,928 --> 01:28:01,303 And that's just... 1064 01:28:04,652 --> 01:28:08,321 I guess I'm more compassionate to gay men than anyone else. 1065 01:28:09,219 --> 01:28:12,293 I know what it really means, in practice. 1066 01:28:13,053 --> 01:28:16,260 Like a double loss, you could say. 1067 01:28:17,874 --> 01:28:22,217 It never came to mind in my mind. I apologize. 1068 01:28:22,342 --> 01:28:24,157 It doesn't matter. 1069 01:28:24,803 --> 01:28:28,918 - It's completely unrelated, just... - No. 1070 01:28:29,177 --> 01:28:32,011 I think about it a lot so just have to say it. 1071 01:28:33,136 --> 01:28:35,513 I'm glad you said that. Thank You. 1072 01:28:37,310 --> 01:28:39,484 Now, that's been said. 1073 01:29:52,260 --> 01:29:56,616 TUESDAY, AUGUST 26 1074 01:29:56,761 --> 01:30:01,442 My friend was supposed to help me, but he... had to take the dog to the vet. 1075 01:30:03,719 --> 01:30:08,431 - Who helps you shop for groceries? - He will do it tomorrow. 1076 01:30:09,360 --> 01:30:12,577 - But you don't have anything tonight. - No problem. 1077 01:30:13,364 --> 01:30:16,831 Then, I'll take you home, After that, I'll shop for you. 1078 01:30:16,928 --> 01:30:21,392 - No. You don't need to do that. - No problem. Really. 1079 01:30:22,957 --> 01:30:26,841 - Is your catheter good? - Very uncomfortable, but... 1080 01:30:26,928 --> 01:30:28,716 - Is it tied well? - It's there. 1081 01:30:30,262 --> 01:30:31,262 Hey. 1082 01:30:34,469 --> 01:30:35,913 Still far from full. 1083 01:30:37,060 --> 01:30:38,912 They show how to drain it? 1084 01:30:43,811 --> 01:30:46,280 - Do you also have some diapers? - Yes. 1085 01:30:48,274 --> 01:30:52,513 - Did you get a prescription? - All kinds of recipes. For Viagra! 1086 01:30:53,196 --> 01:30:56,788 - It helps you get your erection back. - I know it. 1087 01:30:59,303 --> 01:31:02,725 - Does it bother you to hear it? - Yes, I think so. 1088 01:31:04,374 --> 01:31:06,106 But their intentions are good. 1089 01:31:06,636 --> 01:31:09,757 It's good that they're talking about it. That's important. 1090 01:31:11,219 --> 01:31:13,944 You just have to do it at your own pace. 1091 01:31:25,692 --> 01:31:26,786 I think we should go. 1092 01:31:40,660 --> 01:31:44,294 We focus on making patients well again. 1093 01:31:44,636 --> 01:31:46,525 We don't really have the capacity 1094 01:31:46,630 --> 01:31:50,704 to deal with possible sadness some will feel after surgery. 1095 01:31:51,928 --> 01:31:57,553 The fact that someone had attacked your body, eliminating, adjusting, 1096 01:31:57,636 --> 01:32:01,969 can feel like... Yes, maybe not a violation, 1097 01:32:02,053 --> 01:32:04,533 but more like forced entry, perhaps. 1098 01:32:05,178 --> 01:32:08,881 Wake up, and your body feels very different. 1099 01:32:09,178 --> 01:32:11,383 Some people feel lost. 1100 01:32:12,656 --> 01:32:14,031 We can't change that, 1101 01:32:14,142 --> 01:32:17,553 but we must be wise to admit that some people may feel sad. 1102 01:32:17,636 --> 01:32:21,904 Sadness will take time to heal, it might turn into something else. 1103 01:32:22,702 --> 01:32:25,227 - Something else? - Yes. 1104 01:32:26,456 --> 01:32:32,062 I'm not sure, but from what I've learned, the body is a battlefield. 1105 01:32:32,462 --> 01:32:35,512 We can benefit with that in mind, 1106 01:32:35,601 --> 01:32:38,891 accept everything calmly and don't fight it. 1107 01:32:39,803 --> 01:32:43,927 It's not the same for disease. This also applies to sexuality. 1108 01:32:46,511 --> 01:32:49,123 My first wife had cancer. 1109 01:32:50,277 --> 01:32:51,719 That was before we met. 1110 01:32:54,053 --> 01:32:56,018 How many times have you been married? 1111 01:32:57,236 --> 01:32:58,651 - Two. - Oh. 1112 01:32:59,636 --> 01:33:04,338 You never think to get married and have children? 1113 01:33:06,543 --> 01:33:07,636 No. 1114 01:33:08,378 --> 01:33:09,944 I think I can get married again. 1115 01:33:11,250 --> 01:33:15,302 What makes you think what if it will work the third time? 1116 01:33:16,631 --> 01:33:21,841 - You think that when you fall in love. - You've seen how it changes. 1117 01:33:22,418 --> 01:33:25,106 I just don't understand why do people feel the need to get married. 1118 01:33:25,975 --> 01:33:29,511 If there is love, and you guys want to be together, isn't that enough? 1119 01:33:31,312 --> 01:33:36,573 - There's something about making that promise. - Which you have denied twice, 1120 01:33:36,691 --> 01:33:39,488 but you're ready promise a third time? 1121 01:33:39,784 --> 01:33:42,806 So, wedding starting with a big lie. 1122 01:33:43,866 --> 01:33:47,531 Everyone knows that's a lie a weak foundation to build anything on. 1123 01:33:48,287 --> 01:33:53,673 As I see it, it makes married into a kind of production unit 1124 01:33:53,761 --> 01:33:56,143 where is the main goal is having children. 1125 01:33:58,673 --> 01:34:00,818 - That's how you see it? - Yes. 1126 01:34:01,886 --> 01:34:03,689 That's basically what it is. 1127 01:34:05,469 --> 01:34:10,803 It started as a joint project, but in the end it falls on the children 1128 01:34:11,542 --> 01:34:17,959 to take over the project when parents can't or won't invest anymore. 1129 01:34:18,819 --> 01:34:20,902 They can break up and start again, 1130 01:34:21,053 --> 01:34:23,827 but the kids are trapped with that marriage for life. 1131 01:34:28,178 --> 01:34:32,178 - I apologize. - You're just saying it like it is. 1132 01:34:34,803 --> 01:34:40,553 I'm just a person without conscience. But that's okay. 1133 01:34:41,972 --> 01:34:43,901 That's what I always feel. 1134 01:34:45,725 --> 01:34:47,323 Is that so? 1135 01:34:49,020 --> 01:34:50,446 Yes, always. 1136 01:34:53,769 --> 01:34:57,029 In that case, I shouldn't asked you to marry me? 1137 01:35:00,053 --> 01:35:02,649 No problem. I won't never done that. 1138 01:35:03,321 --> 01:35:04,578 Thank You. 1139 01:35:06,053 --> 01:35:08,118 I promise, but... 1140 01:35:13,879 --> 01:35:15,662 Is it okay if I say 1141 01:35:18,303 --> 01:35:20,327 if I fall in love? 1142 01:35:23,761 --> 01:35:26,492 That's okay. You can say it. 1143 01:35:44,612 --> 01:35:47,459 Are you always like this? So good? 1144 01:35:47,913 --> 01:35:49,023 Always. 1145 01:35:49,451 --> 01:35:51,282 You know, life's too short. 1146 01:35:55,665 --> 01:35:58,368 Bjørn, your pocket. Looks like it needs to be drained. 1147 01:35:59,043 --> 01:36:02,444 Oh. You are right. 1148 01:36:06,223 --> 01:36:08,035 - Do you need help? - No. 1149 01:36:18,053 --> 01:36:20,761 No! Good grief. 1150 01:36:29,240 --> 01:36:32,292 I will be fine. Please don't come in. 1151 01:36:32,678 --> 01:36:35,803 - Hey, I can... - I'll be fine. 1152 01:36:37,039 --> 01:36:39,965 - Do you have a bucket? - It's in the kitchen. 1153 01:36:40,048 --> 01:36:43,438 - Under the table. - Yes. 1154 01:38:03,651 --> 01:38:09,211 - Who are the people in the photo? - Dag Hammarskjöld took the photo. 1155 01:38:10,511 --> 01:38:13,907 - That's good. - Yes. I think that's touching. 1156 01:38:15,775 --> 01:38:17,692 The other is Palme. 1157 01:38:21,511 --> 01:38:23,714 The homoeroticism is almost subtle. 1158 01:38:27,525 --> 01:38:30,487 - You don't sleep much in the hospital. - No. 1159 01:38:30,969 --> 01:38:35,649 I haven't slept much since the surgery. I'm just awake and thinking. 1160 01:38:36,456 --> 01:38:37,589 About what? 1161 01:38:38,079 --> 01:38:42,465 About everything, really. How pointless. 1162 01:38:42,636 --> 01:38:45,811 There is no point? Do you really think so? 1163 01:38:47,128 --> 01:38:51,735 It feels so bad to say it, but it really started to wake me up. 1164 01:38:53,175 --> 01:38:58,597 The morning of my surgery, I listen to the news on the radio. 1165 01:38:59,515 --> 01:39:04,998 They say that an HIV vaccine will be available soon. 1166 01:39:05,277 --> 01:39:06,277 Yes? 1167 01:39:06,803 --> 01:39:10,969 The pandemic gave them an opportunity to test mRNA technology. 1168 01:39:11,164 --> 01:39:13,969 Yes, I heard. Isn't that great? 1169 01:39:14,053 --> 01:39:17,196 Sure, but on the same day... 1170 01:39:20,286 --> 01:39:22,773 "Irony of fate", isn't that what it's called? 1171 01:39:24,562 --> 01:39:30,160 Right after I came clean I was gay in the summer of 1986. 1172 01:39:30,719 --> 01:39:32,160 Before I was born. 1173 01:39:32,636 --> 01:39:33,842 - Really? - Yes. 1174 01:39:37,511 --> 01:39:44,197 Not long after that, I saw documentary on TV about AIDS. 1175 01:39:45,651 --> 01:39:47,420 It's like a horror movie! 1176 01:39:48,428 --> 01:39:51,541 They say what what they used to say at that time. 1177 01:39:52,469 --> 01:39:58,054 AIDS is a terrible, deadly disease, which mostly attacks gays. 1178 01:39:59,761 --> 01:40:06,601 I feel that I'm kind of being punished for exposing me. 1179 01:40:07,803 --> 01:40:09,392 If I deserve it. 1180 01:40:11,553 --> 01:40:16,593 That changed everything for me. It scared me so much. 1181 01:40:17,303 --> 01:40:20,102 If I have sex, 1182 01:40:20,349 --> 01:40:24,516 and there's a little cum on my skin, that was scary enough. 1183 01:40:25,178 --> 01:40:29,969 Not to mention if I sleep with someone who don't want to use a condom. 1184 01:40:30,070 --> 01:40:33,665 I find it hard to refuse because of me I also don't like using it. 1185 01:40:35,236 --> 01:40:40,759 After that, I was devastated. Rushing for tests all the time. 1186 01:40:41,303 --> 01:40:45,717 Sitting in the clinic waiting room, feeling dirty and embarrassed. 1187 01:40:46,511 --> 01:40:49,449 It took three months to get the final result, 1188 01:40:49,678 --> 01:40:52,711 I'm full of anxiety. 1189 01:40:54,088 --> 01:40:57,055 Alternate between the fear of death 1190 01:40:57,149 --> 01:41:02,137 and about how to tell it to those close to me. 1191 01:41:04,011 --> 01:41:07,678 I woke up at night thinking about my parents and siblings, 1192 01:41:07,768 --> 01:41:14,231 how they should tell other people if I am HIV positive. 1193 01:41:14,928 --> 01:41:18,553 Ultimately, frustration and the stress becomes very severe 1194 01:41:18,636 --> 01:41:21,219 until it looks better if you stop having sex. 1195 01:41:21,303 --> 01:41:23,211 At all. Didn't do it at all. 1196 01:41:24,124 --> 01:41:25,419 Avoid anxiety. 1197 01:41:26,761 --> 01:41:30,612 But then we got medicine. It's been a long time since it was a death sentence. 1198 01:41:30,708 --> 01:41:32,674 But you're still scared, aren't you? 1199 01:41:32,791 --> 01:41:37,219 if you get a disease that makes you have to take medication for the rest of your life? 1200 01:41:37,303 --> 01:41:42,219 You also don't know how it affects you towards your body. Side effects and... 1201 01:41:42,303 --> 01:41:44,960 What about PrEP? Why don't you do that test? 1202 01:41:46,511 --> 01:41:49,876 Of course I have to do it. I just realized that now. 1203 01:41:50,803 --> 01:41:55,178 But when it comes, it felt like it was too late. 1204 01:41:55,691 --> 01:42:00,008 Sort of. I don't know, I just feel strange. 1205 01:42:00,511 --> 01:42:02,477 But you use Grindr. 1206 01:42:03,178 --> 01:42:06,836 - Just browse. Didn't do anything. - Yes? 1207 01:42:08,211 --> 01:42:13,486 I don't think I have anything anymore left to excite people. 1208 01:42:15,011 --> 01:42:20,393 When told I had to operate, Søyland said 1209 01:42:21,761 --> 01:42:25,132 if there is a big opportunity I can't get an erection anymore. 1210 01:42:25,803 --> 01:42:29,419 To me, that seems like the least of the problems. 1211 01:42:29,886 --> 01:42:36,303 But on the way there that day, for my surgery and possible impotence, 1212 01:42:37,178 --> 01:42:41,553 or at least sterility, never ejaculate again... 1213 01:42:41,636 --> 01:42:45,928 That day, of all days, they told me 1214 01:42:46,011 --> 01:42:49,806 if the vaccine is for HIV most likely to come. 1215 01:42:51,178 --> 01:42:53,134 It feels like going back in time. 1216 01:42:54,053 --> 01:42:57,414 I thought about what you said when we first met. 1217 01:42:58,178 --> 01:43:00,855 If people have to make themselves aware. 1218 01:43:02,053 --> 01:43:07,726 I don't mean you should, but maybe try not to feel sorry for yourself. 1219 01:43:12,518 --> 01:43:14,150 You're not finished at all. 1220 01:43:15,251 --> 01:43:16,893 Go to bed now. 1221 01:43:31,803 --> 01:43:33,209 - Can you? - Yes. 1222 01:43:37,924 --> 01:43:39,131 Thank You. 1223 01:43:43,173 --> 01:43:47,510 - What are you doing? - I'll lie down with you. 1224 01:43:47,594 --> 01:43:50,472 - Why? - Because I want to. 1225 01:43:51,223 --> 01:43:54,406 I won't do anything, I just want to lie next to you. 1226 01:43:55,692 --> 01:44:00,398 - You shouldn't do it out of pity. - No. I did it because I wanted to. 1227 01:44:01,823 --> 01:44:03,548 Let's just say it's something good. 1228 01:44:05,202 --> 01:44:07,327 As a painkiller. For both of us. 1229 01:44:10,457 --> 01:44:11,584 I'm serious. 1230 01:44:36,053 --> 01:44:37,836 Try to relax. 1231 01:44:47,863 --> 01:44:51,665 WEDNESDAY, AUGUST 27 1232 01:44:54,689 --> 01:45:17,689 Every DP Directly Gets a 5% Bonus Playing Here Guarantee Wede WinJos Definitely Win. Jos Wede Visit https://super.winjos.today 1233 01:45:19,109 --> 01:45:20,423 I'm going to work. 1234 01:45:21,730 --> 01:45:25,198 - How do you feel today? - Not bad. 1235 01:45:29,780 --> 01:45:33,304 It looks good. But the bag must be drained immediately. 1236 01:45:36,835 --> 01:45:37,835 What is it? 1237 01:45:40,666 --> 01:45:44,342 - Maybe it's going to be weird now. - What's strange? 1238 01:45:45,511 --> 01:45:52,078 You don't need to feel like you have to go back just because you sleep here with me. 1239 01:45:53,678 --> 01:45:56,556 Bjorn. 1240 01:45:57,272 --> 01:45:59,461 You have to trust other people more. 1241 01:46:14,011 --> 01:46:15,178 Bye. 1242 01:46:22,683 --> 01:46:23,683 Hi, Ida. 1243 01:46:24,626 --> 01:46:25,800 O. 1244 01:46:27,087 --> 01:46:31,900 - Have you been sitting here for a long time? - I came in, but you were still in bed. 1245 01:46:31,984 --> 01:46:36,186 - You're staying with Mom this week. - I don't want to be at Mom's house. 1246 01:46:37,270 --> 01:46:38,818 No, I understand, but... 1247 01:46:40,058 --> 01:46:42,734 Come inside, and we will have breakfast together. 1248 01:46:42,818 --> 01:46:45,696 I'll say goodbye to Marianne first. 1249 01:46:52,553 --> 01:46:57,720 - Sorry about that. - No need. I'm the one who should apologize. 1250 01:46:58,451 --> 01:47:02,971 Ida sat on the terrace from dawn, too afraid to go to his own house 1251 01:47:03,091 --> 01:47:07,619 because I was in my usual bed he came for comfort! Not good! 1252 01:47:07,891 --> 01:47:13,433 We'll get to the bottom of this. I'll talk to Solveig. 1253 01:47:20,856 --> 01:47:22,896 You know what I think will it be the best? 1254 01:47:25,354 --> 01:47:31,019 If you and I only met on the Nesodden ferry one evening. 1255 01:47:31,553 --> 01:47:35,355 Coincidentally. Do you think it's possible? 1256 01:47:54,139 --> 01:47:56,812 - Oh, hi! - Hi! 1257 01:47:57,767 --> 01:47:59,633 - You sitting here? - Yes? 1258 01:48:00,053 --> 01:48:03,131 - Oh, this is where you live? - Did you come from Ole's place? 1259 01:48:03,732 --> 01:48:07,270 - Yes. - I told Ida not to go up there. 1260 01:48:07,553 --> 01:48:13,219 - Sorry if he bothered you. - Absolutely not. No need to apologize. 1261 01:48:13,303 --> 01:48:15,717 No. Are you up early? 1262 01:48:16,469 --> 01:48:18,926 - I'm on my way to work. - Correct. 1263 01:48:19,456 --> 01:48:21,788 - So, you really have to go? - Yes. 1264 01:48:22,553 --> 01:48:25,506 - You wake up early too? - I've been up since three in the morning. 1265 01:48:26,011 --> 01:48:27,510 - Wow! - Yes. 1266 01:48:27,732 --> 01:48:33,048 Would you like a cup of coffee? Accompany me for a moment? 1267 01:48:34,386 --> 01:48:37,752 - Just a moment? - Yes. 1268 01:48:38,178 --> 01:48:40,670 Very well. Come here! 1269 01:48:43,647 --> 01:48:45,451 Pillows too? Thank You. 1270 01:48:45,906 --> 01:48:46,906 Here he is. 1271 01:48:51,803 --> 01:48:55,618 - From three o'clock? Are you having trouble sleeping? - Very. 1272 01:48:56,111 --> 01:49:00,291 It's been like this for years. I've been checked. 1273 01:49:01,248 --> 01:49:02,914 You know, they say 1274 01:49:05,553 --> 01:49:10,469 if bad sleep shortens life. It's exhausting to think about it. 1275 01:49:10,553 --> 01:49:13,635 - I understand. - You lie down thinking, 1276 01:49:14,611 --> 01:49:16,529 "Now, my life is getting shorter." 1277 01:49:17,939 --> 01:49:22,730 Don't understand why they told me that. Not really helpful. 1278 01:49:22,928 --> 01:49:24,262 No. 1279 01:49:24,806 --> 01:49:26,766 I think a lot of people who feel the same way. 1280 01:49:29,359 --> 01:49:30,698 Are you a socialist? 1281 01:49:34,969 --> 01:49:37,073 Yes. I think so. 1282 01:49:39,511 --> 01:49:44,545 You're a music teacher, right? How do you set it when you can't sleep? 1283 01:49:44,899 --> 01:49:47,140 I am a trained music therapist. 1284 01:49:48,336 --> 01:49:50,999 But now I'm unemployed. 1285 01:49:52,386 --> 01:49:57,847 It's hard to get a job here. I'm considering returning to Oslo. 1286 01:49:58,548 --> 01:50:02,033 I saw a job opening in Bergen. 1287 01:50:03,428 --> 01:50:07,403 But Ole and I agreed to stay close to each other because of the children. 1288 01:50:09,178 --> 01:50:13,151 But I don't know what it is good thing. You understand? 1289 01:50:14,219 --> 01:50:16,849 Sometimes, I think that must live here in... 1290 01:50:18,276 --> 01:50:20,450 I rented the first floor here. 1291 01:50:21,655 --> 01:50:25,672 So, I'm sitting here for the kids can run between me and Ole. 1292 01:50:26,678 --> 01:50:30,143 Sometimes, I think it's a punishment, really. 1293 01:50:32,511 --> 01:50:35,094 You don't have a husband and children and so on? 1294 01:50:37,303 --> 01:50:38,793 - No. - No. 1295 01:50:40,803 --> 01:50:42,308 You look very calm. 1296 01:50:44,803 --> 01:50:51,134 The first time I met you, I think you look very calm. 1297 01:50:53,818 --> 01:50:55,086 No. 1298 01:50:57,553 --> 01:50:59,916 No, I don't feel that way. 1299 01:51:01,053 --> 01:51:04,117 - Now I started crying. - I'm really sorry! 1300 01:51:04,201 --> 01:51:05,560 It's okay, I just... 1301 01:51:07,749 --> 01:51:10,728 I feel like myself kept hitting the wall. 1302 01:51:13,046 --> 01:51:14,760 Always trying to find my way. 1303 01:51:17,127 --> 01:51:20,213 - Sorry if I said something. - No. 1304 01:51:20,297 --> 01:51:24,295 I honestly think it's okay if I feel this way. 1305 01:51:24,379 --> 01:51:25,862 This is how it should be. 1306 01:51:33,678 --> 01:51:35,054 I'm really sorry. 1307 01:51:36,271 --> 01:51:38,531 No, there's no reason to apologize. 1308 01:51:39,774 --> 01:51:43,771 Do you sometimes feel like you're trapped, somehow? 1309 01:51:44,511 --> 01:51:49,219 In a situation, or your personality, or because of hope? 1310 01:51:49,473 --> 01:51:51,327 Really stuck, thinking, 1311 01:51:53,451 --> 01:51:56,971 - "How could it end like this?" - Oh, of course. Quite often, really. 1312 01:51:58,592 --> 01:51:59,882 But... 1313 01:52:00,794 --> 01:52:02,195 - But listen. - Yes? 1314 01:52:03,411 --> 01:52:10,371 Even if everything seems impossible, and disappointments pile up, 1315 01:52:11,803 --> 01:52:17,116 you can't stop believing if there will be a way out. 1316 01:52:17,899 --> 01:52:21,861 - Just need to survive? - Yes. 1317 01:52:24,611 --> 01:52:27,021 "Just like your days, so is your strength." 1318 01:52:27,151 --> 01:52:28,913 - Heidi? - Yes, that's one of Heidi's sayings. 1319 01:52:33,161 --> 01:52:35,837 I have to go now, or I'll be late. 1320 01:52:35,921 --> 01:52:40,042 What if Heidi, you and I met one day? 1321 01:52:40,553 --> 01:52:44,053 - That would be great! - Went with Heidi to Oslo, and... 1322 01:52:44,136 --> 01:52:46,008 - Yes! - We can eat together. 1323 01:52:46,549 --> 01:52:49,502 I don't want to spoil anything between you and Ole. 1324 01:52:49,590 --> 01:52:53,216 - You can forget that. - Yes? 1325 01:52:53,863 --> 01:52:59,069 - You can get my number from Heidi. - Heidi. Should I call you, or... 1326 01:53:00,178 --> 01:53:02,844 - I have to go. - I'll talk to Heidi. Of course. 1327 01:53:02,928 --> 01:53:05,719 - Thank you for sitting with me. - Thanks for the coffee. 1328 01:53:05,803 --> 01:53:10,261 - Nice talking to you. See you! - You too! Yes! Bye! 1329 01:53:33,770 --> 01:53:35,679 - Hi! - You're a commuter now? 1330 01:53:36,523 --> 01:53:37,893 - No. - No? 1331 01:53:38,643 --> 01:53:41,544 Did you spend the night at whatever place his name is? 1332 01:53:41,928 --> 01:53:45,073 - Yes. - Is everything going well? 1333 01:53:45,740 --> 01:53:47,550 - Yes. - You look happy. 1334 01:53:48,303 --> 01:53:51,380 - I'm just excited to go to work. - Okay. 1335 01:53:52,080 --> 01:53:53,529 No, actually I'm very happy. 1336 01:53:54,237 --> 01:53:56,320 It feels like thinking clearly. 1337 01:53:56,418 --> 01:53:57,418 That's amazing. 1338 01:53:57,488 --> 01:53:59,241 - And you? You look happy too. - Yes? 1339 01:54:00,255 --> 01:54:04,085 I think so? I'm also excited to go to work. 1340 01:54:04,169 --> 01:54:06,261 - Hi. - Hi. 1341 01:54:06,347 --> 01:54:07,347 Get up early. 1342 01:54:07,589 --> 01:54:11,057 I'm going to a meeting with Anna and the musicians. 1343 01:54:12,184 --> 01:54:14,495 Are you staying at Ole Harald's place? 1344 01:54:15,597 --> 01:54:19,441 How is the project going? They Have you decided about your anniversary yet? 1345 01:54:19,608 --> 01:54:20,802 Yes, that's... 1346 01:54:22,235 --> 01:54:23,284 OK. 1347 01:54:24,189 --> 01:54:28,197 Yes. I came too bad meeting yesterday. 1348 01:54:28,943 --> 01:54:32,947 But somehow everything changed according to what I want. 1349 01:54:33,031 --> 01:54:34,705 - Wow! - Not what you think. 1350 01:54:34,789 --> 01:54:38,102 I realized that was stupid if you spend a lot of money on a party. 1351 01:54:38,803 --> 01:54:44,719 I convince them to finish it to make the board easier to contact. 1352 01:54:44,959 --> 01:54:48,659 So they can get help when you need it, it's quite simple. 1353 01:54:49,346 --> 01:54:53,976 There will be a small event on the roof of the city hall, as Anna suggested. 1354 01:54:54,302 --> 01:54:57,236 We have created a masterpiece which will be performed by a singer, 1355 01:54:57,335 --> 01:55:01,701 which is supposed to represent the "Oslo Girls". This is the so-called everyday cantata. 1356 01:55:01,803 --> 01:55:03,674 That's what we're practicing now. 1357 01:55:04,601 --> 01:55:10,969 This is much simpler, and more meaningful, I think. 1358 01:55:11,121 --> 01:55:13,138 So, now you don't want to stop? 1359 01:55:14,053 --> 01:55:16,636 I plan to stop. 1360 01:55:18,053 --> 01:55:20,816 Think of all that has been You're done with this, Heidi. 1361 01:55:21,257 --> 01:55:24,552 You can't stop. You're a good thinker. 1362 01:55:24,980 --> 01:55:27,018 We need people like you in town. 1363 01:55:29,129 --> 01:55:32,472 First time for everyone! "You're needed in town." 1364 01:55:32,562 --> 01:55:35,700 - You too. You're needed. - But you don't? 1365 01:55:36,053 --> 01:55:39,219 I? Of course. I am the city.